First Trimester

I Wish I Hadn’t Told Anyone About My Pregnancy



When I became pregnant, there were a lot of rules, don’t drink, don’t smoke, don’t sleep on your tummy, and don’t tell anyone about the pregnancy until they can see for themselves. For my first child, I kept this last rule, I never told anyone until my tummy started bulging but with my second child, I was so confident it’s okay to tell anyone that cares to know and I wish I hadn’t.

When I told my husband the news of my pregnancy, I made sure it was recorded, I was seated on the couch with him and our 4 year old son “We’re having a baby” I announced, I watched my husband’s expression change and he danced around happily, I’m glad I captured that moment. My son who had been asking me for a baby sister jumped around in excitement.

I immediately called up my mother-in-law to tell her, I told my own mum, my friends, and then my excited 4 year old  proudly told his friends that his mom is giving him a baby sister, I should have known that the little brat can’t keep a secret. So at the end everyone got to know, but when they heard I was only 6 weeks gone, they raised their eyebrow but I was sure they were just being paranoid, I became determined to make this work.

Some weeks later, I started bleeding, I lost the baby at 10 weeks. When we got back home my son asked “how’s the baby doing?” I pulled him to one side and explained to him that “the egg is bad so my body got rid of the baby because if given birth to, baby won’t be as healthy as you” he went to one side and sobbed sadly.



I had to persuade him that we are all sad but as soon as I’m okay, we’ll make a new good egg and give him a sister. When I told him how it might take some time, he wailed again. His cry of anguish mirrored exactly how we adults were feeling.

The hardest part of it all is having to “untell” everyone. I only told the people close to me, my mom, his mom, my friends close to me had to be notified. When others ask “how’s baby?” I simply answer “baby’s gone.” I’m glad I talked to my friends who have had a miscariage at some point, their support really helped me heal as they talked about how they felt when they lost their baby and how they coped.

As for my son, he had to learn the meaning of a miscarriage and tell his friends his mom had one, I wished I had desisted from telling him so early so I’d spare him the trouble. Waiting 3 months before telling people is the wise advice and next time I’d heed this advice.

Meanwhile we are still trying, wish me luck!

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Early Signs That You Might Be Pregnant



Most women don’t suspect or think they are pregnant until they notice that they have missed their menstrual period, but even before then there would have been some signs that you are pregnant.

Pregnancy symptoms begin at 4 weeks. Normally you get your period about 4 weeks from the start of your last period, but if you’re pregnant, the clearest sign at this point is a missed period. Many women still feel fine at 4 weeks, but others may notice sore breasts, fatigue, frequent urination, and nausea. Since every woman is different they have different symptoms during pregnancy.

And some of the earliest signs that you are pregnant include:



  • Shortness of Breath -You might be begin to notice that the normal distance that you would normally take has suddenly become a chore.
  • Sore Breasts – you would probably begin to notice that your breast feel tender and heavy. Pronounced veins and darkened areola are said to be the first sign that you are pregnant.
  • Fatigue – You would begin to get exhausted easily. This tiredness usually continues all through the first trimester and get better by the second trimester.
  • Nausea – For a lot of women nausea usually starts at the about 6 weeks but some might begin to feel nauseous from the 4th week of pregnancy and usually reduces by the second semester. Pregnant women are advised the manage the nausea by taking crackers and ginger tea.
  • Frequent Urination – You might begin to notice that your visit to the toilet has become more frequent than usual. This occurs are mainly because the blood flow to the woman’s kidneys increases. This increased urine production peaks by about 9 to 16 weeks of the pregnancy, then settles down.
  • Headaches – You might begin to notice that you are having headaches frequently this is usually as a result of the changes in hormones happening in your body. If you are pregnant it is advised that to handle the headaches you seek the advice of your doctor for safe painkillers to use.
  • Backaches – If you don’t normally have backaches, you might begin to notice that your back is sore. This happens because your ligaments are becoming loose and this would probably continue all through your pregnancy as your baby becomes bigger.
  • Cravings or Food Aversions – If you begin to crave or suddenly can’t stand some food that you eat normally it might be an early sign of pregnancy.
  • Constipation and Bloating – if you suddenly begin to feel constipated or bloated it could be a sign of pregnancy. It might be extra progesterone due to pregnancy, which slows down your digestive system.
  • Mood Swings – Most pregnant women go through different emotion mainly due to the increase of hormones. Some moms-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad, while others feel more depressed or anxious.
  • Heightened Sense of Smell – If you are suddenly sensitive to different smell it might be because you are pregnant.
  • Dizziness – We have seen it in a lot of movies but its is actually based on reality. If you suddenly begin to feel dizzy it could be a sign that you are pregnant.
  • Spotting or Light Bleeding – It is usually earlier than normal and very light unlike your normal period. You may actually be experiencing implantation bleeding, where the fertilized egg attaches to the uterine wall and causes a little bloodshed.
  • Missed Period– This usually one of the most obvious signs of pregnancy and it is at this point that people begin to take note of the other symptoms they have been feeling. Missed period would only be noticed if the person’s period is usually regular.
  • Positive Pregnancy Test– This usually gives a more definite answer to whether you are pregnant or not and it can be done anywhere.

It is usually advised that after taking a home pregnancy test, you should also go to the hospital to take a blood test. Then if it comes out positive your doctor would be able to advise you on the next step to take to ensure a smooth pregnancy and safe delivery.

 

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