The idea of paying my mom to babysit our baby seemed inconceivable at first, but if you live in Abuja, you know how exorbitant the prices of everything is, the cost of childcare is high and my mom is ever glad to do it so why not. My mom had stopped working and she was complaining about how she’s getting older sitting down and doing nothing, so when I asked her if she would baby sit our baby full time she jumped at the offer, although I never told her about the monetary part, if I did she would have declined.
It’s not a big issue for a grandmother to care for her grandchildren, what is unconventional in the arrangement is that we have to be paying my mom a monthly salary to care for our son.
It just seems unfair not to pay her when we would normally pay a child care provider, besides by paying her, we are saying how much our child is worth to us. And the good thing about the arrangement is, we can get home late at night and still be rest assured that our baby will be fine which is why we pay her the exact amount we would pay a professional care provider.
The good side to my mom babysitting our child is that she’ll be able to adequately bond with her grandchild, and she’ll also have money for whatever she’d like it for instead of asking her children for financial help.
But since we are paying her, we are able to set boundaries, weekends are the time for her to rest and no matter how much she insist we allow her have her own “me” time on weekends, I mean it’s only fair. Also, paying her makes it easy for me to be able to tell her to do some things without feeling bad about being assertive.
And in the event that she’s no longer interested in this arrangement, she’s still my mom and she can easily tell me and I’d understand. Not everyone would agree to pay their mom to baby sit their child and that’s okay, I mean most grandmothers wouldn’t even agree to such but mine agreed after a few persuasion and she’s doing a great job.
Meanwhile, we try not to get home too late and when we have to be late, we notify her. If you’re fortunate to have an agile mother who is ready to help in taking care of your baby, gladly solicit her help, meanwhile if offering her money will be offensive, do not offer them money you can pay her indirectly instead.