Parenting

What To Do If Your Only Child Is Lonely



Unknown to most parents with one child, your only child might be lonely. Growing up as an only child, although I was never really lonely, I often get asked if I’m lonely. And my answer was always “No” but when I’m playing with my mates and they’re like “Don’t touch my sister” “Don’t beat my sister” I’ll then tell my mom, “Mommy! Give me a sister too” to which my mom would answer “soon” then she got me a dog.

To help your only child, do these;

1. Help them interact with their peer

If your children don’t relate with anyone else but you and other adults, they might have difficulty relating to their peers. Visit your friend and take them along, so they’d play with children of your friends. Encourage your child to play with your neighbour’s children too.

 

2. Don’t be overprotective

Moms with just one child are usually overprotective, fighting for your child when her mates beat her, rescuing her and telling everyone not to touch her will make her unable to fight her own battles. Step back and let your child live and learn to solve his own problem on his own.



3. Get a pet

You should get your child a pet, it won’t only keep your child company, but also teach them to be responsible, kind and loyal. If your family doesn’t have the time or the effort, don’t get a pet and suffer it.

4. Have reasonable goals for your child

Do not set unreasonable and unrealistic expectations for your child just because he’s your one and only child. Your hopes and ambition for your child should be in line with what he wants and his ambition, although you can assure him to try his best at everything.

5. Let your child make decisions

Making all the decisions for your child will not help them, as they get older, they’ll begin to depend on your input to make a decision and they won’t be able to think for themselves. help your child become an independent thinker right from when he’s a toddler. Give them chances to make little choices like what story they’d like you to read to them, what clothes they’d like to where and where they’d like to go on an outing.

How do you ensure your only child is not lonely? Please share!

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15 Signs Your “Innocent” Child Is Lying



Children think they are very clever, and when they lie giving you that adorable look, you’ll almost believe them until you take a closer look. I asked my 5-year-old child, “what did you do to your sister” “Nothing” He said, giving me that angelic look of his, yet he was seated on his sister’s hand. Nothing indeed.

They have no qualms conning you right to your face and they feel no pinch of guilt about it, whatever they do they’ll still be your adorable little ones, though.  But I must say that some are very good at lying than others, so in order to catch them at their thing, you need to be on the red alert! So here are the signs that your innocent child is lying through his teeth;

  1. You ask him “did you bed-wet today” and she answers “No” with a squeezed face and a hand covering her wet cloth.
  2. You smell something funny and you ask “are you pooping” And she answers with a grunt “No” from behind the chair.
  3. You find call history to your old friends after your child has denied ever touching your phone yet your credit is exhausted.
  4. Crumbs of biscuit or residue of the things she claimed she didn’t eat smeared across her face or on her mouth.
  5. Scared that you might read the truth from his expression, he looks left, right and anywhere else but you as you ask questions(beware some can look straight into your eyes and lie)
  6. “Junior! Are you….” You asked from inside the room and he calls out “No, I’m not” but his sister’s muffled cry of “Yes, he is” can be heard through the pillow or hand he covered her mouth with.
  7. You ask a question, he answers, then run to a distance where your hand can’t reach him(hold him, he’s guilty)
  8. He has other people to pin the blame on and they are all denying.
  9. The child you are speaking to has one or more siblings she can pin the blame on.
  10. Her face is saying “I’m telling the truth” so is her lips but her body language says “I might run anytime soon, watch me”
  11. “What’s that sound” you asked after you heard a crash, then they replied “Nothing mom!” from inside the room, they probably just broke your bottle of perfume!
  12. “Where is the superglue” or “Where’s the needle” she casually asked and when you asked her what it’s for she replied “Nothing” Hmm…
  13. When his “No” comes out as a “Nooooooo” They are trying to assure you and calm themselves as well, which is why the “NO” has so many oooo.
  14. She said “ummmmmm’ for more than 10 seconds before answering the question you asked her.
  15. He tries to stop you from entering his room or opening the drawer.

And these are the ways you can catch your child at his lying game.

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