Fatherhood

What Happens When Your Wife Has A Miscarriage?



Pregnancy loss or miscarriage is when the foetus in a woman dies before 20 weeks of pregnancy and if the foetus weighs less than 400gm.

Miscarriage happens for many different reasons. More often it occurs when the foetus is not going properly. As sad as it is miscarriage is a common occurrence. The process if miscarriage cannot be stopped once it begins. Statistics states that about 15-20% of confirmed pregnancies are miscarried.

There are different reasons miscarriage can happen to a pregnant woman, some of which are;



1. Problem with the egg or sperm when the embryo is been formed. This is also called chromosomal abnormalities which is the commonest cause of miscarriage

2. When there is a problem with a woman’s thyroid and the body tries to compensate for the lack it make the uterus unfavorable for implantation or lead to abnormal uterine bleeding

3. Lifestyle such as smoking, alcohol intake, drug abuse can cause miscarriage

4. Diabetes

5. Cervical Incompetence

6. Blood Clotting Disorders

7. Immunological Disorders

How can a man recover from his wife’s pregnancy loss?

1. When miscarriage happens to an expectant couple, it brings sadness, distress and helplessness. You may have already started to imagine yourself as a father and your spouse a mother to be. Your reactions to the loss may differ but you need to know that you are human and when there is a loss it comes with pain.

2. Deciding to brave it and act like nothing ever happens may be the quickest option to jump at but it is better to express your loss so you can heal.

3. If you have close family and friends who have been supportive and are trusted shoulders to lean on, then reach out to them.

4. You can also write down how you feel if you don’t like talking to people about it.

5. Truly a pregnancy loss affects you greatly, your wife is physically affected because she would bleed for weeks and days after the miscarriage. You need to support her by listening, talking about it and been there for her.

6. Let her grief and don’t rush the recovery process for her.

7. You don’t have to be all macho, hiding how you feel. No, you need each other at this time and being vulnerable with each other will help you get back on your feet.

8. If you feel that your emotions are leading up to depression, seek help

9. Do things that you both enjoy doing as a couple. This will help both you build positive vibes around you making your bond stronger.

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Breaking Stereotypes With The Work-From-Home Dad Trend



Work-from-home dad? Yes, you read right!

The work-from-home dad phenomenon is fast becoming the new normal.  Many men chose to leave their paid job to pursue entrepreneurship, which offers time flexibility compared to their paid jobs while others are forced to be one due to job loss.

In many homes, the women are the breadwinner, this may look odd because of the social and religious stereotypes we all believe in that stipulates that the woman should be at home and the man should be out and about making money for the home.



Many at times the choice to stay at home for many men is difficult to make because of the social perception associated with men who do not go out of their house. Some women may even be accused of using voodoo or love portions on their spouse in order to make lose their desire to work outside the home.

Being a stay-at-home dad is not synonymous with being jobless or useless. In recent times many men have successfully run offline and online businesses worth millions from the confines of their home while looking out for the kids. There are factors to consider before taking the bold step of being a work-from-home dad

Have a side hustle: many men who opt out of full-time employment to work for themselves have either marketable skills or side hustles with the huge prospect of growing big if more time was devoted to it. Do not take a leap out of your job to the unknown out of the zeal of being a work-from-home dad without test running this business to see if it would hold up. You can offer your skills on online platforms that require such skills.

Mutual understanding: Couples must come to an agreement on the choice of who works and who stays at home. It would not make financial sense if the woman who earns more have to stay at home because the man who earns less has to work to prove a point. All the angles to this decision must be considered dispassionately.

Prepare yourself for wrong perceptions: it is still not popular to find men work full time from home. You have to be prepared to encounter misunderstanding from well-meaning people who are concerned about your ‘joblessness’ all because you do not step out of your house as much as other men do.

Once you are certain that this idea of being a work-from-home dad will fly. Take the step and work hard it. It might be rough at the start but you certainly will pull through and grow big if you don’t give up.

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