First Trimester

When Is The Time To Inform My Family I’m Pregnant Again

I’m really scared of telling anyone apart from my husband I’m pregnant again. I have been trying to conceive for a while now, I got married  to my husband 6 years ago,  few months after our wedding, if I should fall sick a little, everyone starts to think I’m pregnant. I was hoping to get pregnant  too immediately after our wedding but since we are putting in effort and it’s not yielding results, we decided we will wait till God’s time. After our first year anniversary, friends and family start asking questions of what is keeping us, we just give them one excuse or the other and it went on like that for 2 more years.

I was fed up and tired from all the slide comments from my husband’s relative asking what is the problem is and what’s is keeping us from giving them grandchildren, we told them of all the medical test we’ve carried out and the result showed that we are both fine and it’s only a matter of time before we become parents. They promised to be patience with us and join us in prayers. God answered our prayers after our third year of marriage, we were so happy when we confirmed it, we could not contain our joy that we could not help but share the news with everyone that matters to us. Everyone was happy for us.

A week to the end of my first trimester, I woke up feeling fluids in between my thighs, I jolted out of bed to see blood all over my night wear, we rushed to the hospital  and after I was examined, our worst fear was confirmed. I had lost the baby. I was really devastated. That brought us back to the way we were before but this time, it’s even worse.  We were gloomy and sad but we believed in God that it happened for a reason.  We were steadfast with our prayers and kept a positive spirit.  8months after that incident, we were expecting again, we decided that we are going to keep it to ourselves this time or if at all, inform just our both parents. We informed them and they were happy all over again like they were the first time but we made them promise not to tell anyone this time until I’m showing.

I was one of the lucky ones, I tried not to do anything stressful just to avoid any situation that can lead to the first incident.  I was shocked when I started receiving calls from friends and family asking how I’m fairing with the pregnancy. These are people we never told anything and we just knew either of our parents cannot keep a secret.  I felt they might have jinxed it for us again and I was right, I was in the kitchen cooking a week after when I felt streams of blood running down my thighs. I screamed for my husband and he ran to my side. I was crying profusely even before we got to the hospital and the doctor confirmed it.  Our parents claimed it was just one person they told and the one person they told went and the one person told another person and the whole families have heard.

During our fifth year anniversary, we pray to God for him to answer our prayers and he did, myself and my husband decided not to tell anyone anything about us anymore when God answers again and he did hear our cry and answered us.  I have been 4 months pregnant now, this is the longest I have gone compared to my first two pregnancies. I’m not showing yet and I’m tempted to tell anyone I’m pregnant again. My husband insisted we are not informing anyone, that it is my stomach that will inform them. How long do I keep on avoiding family gatherings pending the time I’m obviously showing. I don’t want to lose my baby again too.

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Early Signs That You Might Be Pregnant

Most women don’t suspect or think they are pregnant until they notice that they have missed their menstrual period, but even before then there would have been some signs that you are pregnant.

Pregnancy symptoms begin at 4 weeks. Normally you get your period about 4 weeks from the start of your last period, but if you’re pregnant, the clearest sign at this point is a missed period. Many women still feel fine at 4 weeks, but others may notice sore breasts, fatigue, frequent urination, and nausea. Since every woman is different they have different symptoms during pregnancy.

And some of the earliest signs that you are pregnant include:

  • Shortness of Breath -You might be begin to notice that the normal distance that you would normally take has suddenly become a chore.
  • Sore Breasts – you would probably begin to notice that your breast feel tender and heavy. Pronounced veins and darkened areola are said to be the first sign that you are pregnant.
  • Fatigue – You would begin to get exhausted easily. This tiredness usually continues all through the first trimester and get better by the second trimester.
  • Nausea – For a lot of women nausea usually starts at the about 6 weeks but some might begin to feel nauseous from the 4th week of pregnancy and usually reduces by the second semester. Pregnant women are advised the manage the nausea by taking crackers and ginger tea.
  • Frequent Urination – You might begin to notice that your visit to the toilet has become more frequent than usual. This occurs are mainly because the blood flow to the woman’s kidneys increases. This increased urine production peaks by about 9 to 16 weeks of the pregnancy, then settles down.
  • Headaches – You might begin to notice that you are having headaches frequently this is usually as a result of the changes in hormones happening in your body. If you are pregnant it is advised that to handle the headaches you seek the advice of your doctor for safe painkillers to use.
  • Backaches – If you don’t normally have backaches, you might begin to notice that your back is sore. This happens because your ligaments are becoming loose and this would probably continue all through your pregnancy as your baby becomes bigger.
  • Cravings or Food Aversions – If you begin to crave or suddenly can’t stand some food that you eat normally it might be an early sign of pregnancy.
  • Constipation and Bloating – if you suddenly begin to feel constipated or bloated it could be a sign of pregnancy. It might be extra progesterone due to pregnancy, which slows down your digestive system.
  • Mood Swings – Most pregnant women go through different emotion mainly due to the increase of hormones. Some moms-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad, while others feel more depressed or anxious.
  • Heightened Sense of Smell – If you are suddenly sensitive to different smell it might be because you are pregnant.
  • Dizziness – We have seen it in a lot of movies but its is actually based on reality. If you suddenly begin to feel dizzy it could be a sign that you are pregnant.
  • Spotting or Light Bleeding – It is usually earlier than normal and very light unlike your normal period. You may actually be experiencing implantation bleeding, where the fertilized egg attaches to the uterine wall and causes a little bloodshed.
  • Missed Period– This usually one of the most obvious signs of pregnancy and it is at this point that people begin to take note of the other symptoms they have been feeling. Missed period would only be noticed if the person’s period is usually regular.
  • Positive Pregnancy Test– This usually gives a more definite answer to whether you are pregnant or not and it can be done anywhere.

It is usually advised that after taking a home pregnancy test, you should also go to the hospital to take a blood test. Then if it comes out positive your doctor would be able to advise you on the next step to take to ensure a smooth pregnancy and safe delivery.


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