Fatherhood

Things Husbands Should Do For Their Wives During Pregnancy And Childbirth


Like it or not men especially husbands are very important for the overall wellbeing of the family.

This undeniable fact and reality should be encouraged and embraced instead of carrying on with the high opinion that women can do it alone. The love of a mother for her child needs to go hand in hand with the protective presence of a caring father.

A study was conducted in Iran and the opinion of fathers, mothers and professionals and policymakers were documented as regards the role of husbands during pregnancy and after childbirth and the findings are similar to what you may desire from your spouse.


Here are some of the things women want their husbands to do during pregnancy and childbirth;

  1. Many of the women wanted their husbands to be present when they gave birth. Being there to hold their hands, whisper words of comfort and support through the pain of bringing a new life to the world.
  2. Husbands are expected to physically care for their wives during pregnancy. This involves being mindful of what she eats, cleaning her up when she throws up at odd times, helping to carry heavy things, doing chores and difficult tasks that she cannot do because of pregnancy and childbirth
  3. Husbands should support the health of the mother and baby by avoiding actions that would endanger their health. Actions such as smoking and drinking do no good. It has a negative impact on the pregnant woman and the unborn child.
  4. Husbands should support the mother’s nutrition during pregnancy. Asking about what she has eaten during the day is important because you may be surprised that she may not have taken any food in. They can also buy these nutritious food/ fruit for her. Feed her playfully if she is reluctant to eat them.
  5. Pregnancy time is not a time to stay from your family if you can avoid it. A husbands’ physical presence is reassuring. It gives their wives peace of mind.
  6. Planning and providing financially is an important role of the husband. As you expect your baby, save up to meet the increasing needs.
  7. Husbands should accompany their wives to ante- and postnatal clinics. Going to the clinic with her helps husbands learn about the state of their wife and baby. It also prepares them emotionally to learn about childcare.
  8.  Husbands should empathize with their wives in difficult times like sleepless nights, breastfeeding issues showing her appreciation and giving her attention before and after delivery. Husbands should be observant and should cheer their wives to prevent her from slipping into postnatal depression.
  9. Husbands should actively participate in the direct care of the baby, which involves carrying, and tending to the baby especially if the mother is not strong enough to attend to the baby all the time.
  10. Husbands should support breastfeeding. Research has proven that women who have spousal support on breastfeeding go on to breastfeed their babies well enough.

 

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Breaking Stereotypes With The Work-From-Home Dad Trend


Work-from-home dad? Yes, you read right!

The work-from-home dad phenomenon is fast becoming the new normal.  Many men chose to leave their paid job to pursue entrepreneurship, which offers time flexibility compared to their paid jobs while others are forced to be one due to job loss.

In many homes, the women are the breadwinner, this may look odd because of the social and religious stereotypes we all believe in that stipulates that the woman should be at home and the man should be out and about making money for the home.


Many at times the choice to stay at home for many men is difficult to make because of the social perception associated with men who do not go out of their house. Some women may even be accused of using voodoo or love portions on their spouse in order to make lose their desire to work outside the home.

Being a stay-at-home dad is not synonymous with being jobless or useless. In recent times many men have successfully run offline and online businesses worth millions from the confines of their home while looking out for the kids. There are factors to consider before taking the bold step of being a work-from-home dad

Have a side hustle: many men who opt out of full-time employment to work for themselves have either marketable skills or side hustles with the huge prospect of growing big if more time was devoted to it. Do not take a leap out of your job to the unknown out of the zeal of being a work-from-home dad without test running this business to see if it would hold up. You can offer your skills on online platforms that require such skills.

Mutual understanding: Couples must come to an agreement on the choice of who works and who stays at home. It would not make financial sense if the woman who earns more have to stay at home because the man who earns less has to work to prove a point. All the angles to this decision must be considered dispassionately.

Prepare yourself for wrong perceptions: it is still not popular to find men work full time from home. You have to be prepared to encounter misunderstanding from well-meaning people who are concerned about your ‘joblessness’ all because you do not step out of your house as much as other men do.

Once you are certain that this idea of being a work-from-home dad will fly. Take the step and work hard it. It might be rough at the start but you certainly will pull through and grow big if you don’t give up.

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