Should Discipline Start Early?

Mamalettes sometimes have a hard time when it comes to how to discipline a child.

For example how many times have you held back the urge to beat up your naughty son/daughter?

What many parents fail to realise is that discipline is not about punishment.  It’s about teaching and guidance, so discipline can and should start when the child is still very young.

Once a child becomes capable of interacting with his environment, whether by crawling or simply by touching and manipulating objects within his reach, the need to control and redirect his behaviour is more important.

At this stage, a child is still incapable of wilful rebellion; most of the behaviours that mom and dad tend to regard as wrong or troublesome is simply an expression of his desire to explore new things in his environment. The parent’s major responsibility during this phase is to ensure the child’s safety

Disciplining a child, can bring out the best and worst in us as parents, but it can also make us better parents. That’s because discipline begins with trust.

The child who trusts his mum or dad to give him food and comfort when he needs it will also trust them when they say, “Don’t ” And that’s also why, for children under age 2, discipline is more about building your child’s faith in you. 

In your effort to discipline your child, remember these two things:

  • Bad behaviour from children between the ages of two and six may be completely normal
  • You have the ability to help your child learn how to begin to control him or herself

They say “charity begins at home”, so if you don’t discipline your child, you are rearing him to be a menace to the society and it is never too early to start, these are 9 steps to take towards training your child.

1. Be fast and safe

Discipline is different for each stage of your child’s development. For the young child between the ages of two and six, the main thing to remember is to keep the discipline simple and easy to understand.

Be fast by correcting any wrong doing immediately and safe by putting your child away from a place where he can hurt himself. You can send him to his room if that is safe for him since young children have a tendency to lash out when they are angry.

2. Be gentle but firm

You have to know that beating, swatting, and yelling are never appropriate responses. Harsh discipline will only scare her and can even cause an injury. Shaking a baby can cause life-long brain damage or death. If you feel angry, put your baby down in a safe place, like her crib or playpen, and give yourself a short break to calm down.

3. Reward good behaviour

Make certain there are always consequences for your child’s actions, both positive and negative. Throughout life, we all have to live with the consequences of our actions. When punishment is the centrepiece of discipline, parents tend to overlook their children’s best behaviours. Rewarding good deeds target behaviours you want to develop in your child, not things he shouldn’t be doing. This doesn’t mean you should give your child a gift every time he does something good, there are different ways to compliment good behaviour like saying “good job” when your child makes his or her bed although at times when your child does something extraordinary you may give him a bigger reward.

4. Attention

Kids need attention, plain and simple. If we don’t give them enough positive attention, kids will get our attention at all cost, even if it’s a negative one they get. They’ll push our buttons with negative behaviours because to a kid, even a negative attention is better than no attention at all. Just take a few minutes a day to spend time with your child one-on-one, and do something they want to do, this will encourage good behaviour in them.

5. Be Clear About Rules 

If your rules are vague or discussed only when one has been broken, your child will have a hard time following them. So it’s up to the parent to make sure it’s clear to the child what is expected of him and what is not. Be sure to explain the rules of the house when you can speak clearly and your child is not too upset to listen.

6. Set Limits and Stick to Them

Kids thrive when they have structure and know their boundaries. Don’t go overdo it by setting hundreds of rules, but focus on what’s most important for your family.

Be clear about the ground rules and the consequences  when someone breaks the rules. Also, make sure that everyone understands the consequences before they even do any wrong and that the discipline is related to the misbehaviour.

Consistency is important, kids of every age are smart and very adept at sensing indecision or wavering in parents.If you may want to back down for fear of ruining your child’s fun, remember that kids benefit from limits. Rules and structure give children the security of knowing their parents are watching out for them.

7. Give Them Choices

Kids at this age tend to feel like their lives are mostly mapped out for them on a day-to-day basis, so it’s important to give them some freedom of choice throughout the day.

Young children throw tantrums and become rebellious when you keep telling them what to do without leaving them any choice. So allow them to choose, allowing them is a loving form of discipline that can reduce their tantrum and acting. Example: “Junior would you like fruit or sweet?” Giving him a chance to choose gives him a sense of freedom.

Mamalettes, it is never too late to teach your children how to help with the chores, if your child is a little grown, he can help you with chores like sweeping, running errands in the house, helping you with the children and other small chores like that, it will even relieve you a little. Besides if your child is not used to helping you, he might see it as punishment later in life and might never adjust.

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10 Schools for Children With Special Needs In Nigeria

Many parents with children with special needs struggle with what school to put their children in.

Some are ashamed of having to put them in schools with other children with special needs and some don’t even have an idea these schools exist let alone or where they are located.

The truth is, children who have physical, emotional or learning differences may struggle in traditional academic settings. Some children have difficulty staying focused, others find it hard to communicate either in writing or orally, and some children struggle to get along with peers.  Experts recommend that parents send their children to schools specifically designed to address the needs of children with special needs.

These schools and their teachers can help students in ways that traditional school settings and teachers may not be able to.

If you do have kids with special needs and want education provided by professional tutors in this area, these are some of the schools that will do your child a lot of good;

1.Modupe Cole Memorial Childcare and Treatment Home

This school is one of the oldest schools for children with special needs. It was established in 1960 and it has had several testimonies. They cater for pupils that have down syndrome, autism, cerebral palsy, e.t.c. The school runs both academic and vocational. You can visit them at No1, St. Finbarr College Road, Akoka or call 08074571573 for more information.

2. Benola

Benola is a Not for Profit Organisation committed to change and progress for persons living with Cerebral Palsy. They are located at, Suite 19/20, Praise Plaza, Ajah/Ado Road, Lekki, Lagos, Nigeria. You can call them on +234-012954355 , send them a mail at, [email protected] or log on to their website here .

3. C.A.D.E.T. Academy

C.A.D.E.T. Academy is a research & evidence-based special needs education & learning program located in Abuja, Nigeria but serves a global community. It is a world class provider of high quality educational services for all children, particularly those with special needs. They are located at Block L2, No 13, Uruguay Street,  Maitama, Abuja, Nigeria. Also visit their website here.  

4. The Zamarr Institute: The Zamarr Institute creates a world class facility for children living with Special Needs. They are located at LEA Nursery & Primary School,  Patrick O. Bokkor Crescent, Off Ebitu Ukiwe Street, Jabi, Abuja. You can call them on 08098143671, 08098659760 or log on their website here, for more information

5. Patrick Speech and Languages Centre

This centre provides special education services for the developmentally challenged, hearing and speech impaired children in Nigeria. Their centre is located at 13b Fani Kayode Street, GRA, Ikeja, Lagos, Nigeria. You can also call them on 07055028215, 08033019865. Log on to their website here for more information.

6. Kids Start Right School

Kids Start Right School is another beautiful place for children who have traits of autism, Attention Deficit Disorder and other learning difficulties. The school is located at 3, Afinni Street, Off Ibezim Obiajulu Street, Off Adelabu Str, Masha Roundabout Surulere Lagos. You can call them on 08033771935, 08023378084 or log on to their website here.

7. Open Doors Special Educational Centre

Open Doors for Special Learners is a registered non-governmental and not for profit organization dedicated to the: Provision of quality Special Education, vocational training, speech and language therapy and physiotherapy for children and youths with learning handicaps. This school is located off Liberty Boulevard in Giring, Jos, Plateau State, Nigeria. You can call them on 08034534990 or log on to their website here.

8. Centre for Children with Special Needs

 ‘’CCSN’’ is a Non-governmental organization serving as a learning support service and resource centre for children with special needs, set up in the regular school environment, to promote inclusion (integration) and give quality education. The school is located at 4, Lake Chad Crescent, Off IBB Way, Maitama District, Abuja FCT Nigeria. You can call them on, 09020454575, 08069738449 or log on to their website for more information.

9. Centre for Autism and Development Disabilities

CADD is a fully registered as a Non-Governmental Organization focusing on autism spectrum disorders and related developmental disabilities. You can get more information here

10. Pacific Hall Special School

Pacific Hall Special School is a school for children with autism, dyslexia, down syndrome, cerebral palsy, hearing impairment and physical disabilities. It is the first school wholly-set for disabled children education in Nigeria. The school is located at 10 Oba Akinjobi Road, G.R.A, Ikeja Nigeria.

We recommend that parents make a visit to these special needs schools when they are in session. This can give you an idea of these institutions’ day-to-day operations as well as a better sense of how comfortable your children will be in these environments.  

Also, kindly note that the special needs schools are not limited to the 10 listed above but they are the ones that have been verified by our team.

If you know any other special needs school that is not listed above, please kindly feel free to drop their names and contact details below in the comment section.


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