How To Raise An Empathic Kid In This Selfish World

We live in a selfish world where everyone is all for themselves, if someone has an accident and dies, all people will say is “Thank God I’m alive!” That’s all, life goes on! Teaching your kid to empathise and have pity is one of the important things you can give to your child. If we fail to do this, we have failed as parents and as a society. The reason why the world is the way it is is because most people are selfish and are always after “me, me, me”.

Don’t blame the selfish child, blame their parents! If only parents would start encouraging their kids to be empathetic, there’s still hope that they’d grow up to be considerate of other people’s feeling in whatever they do.

Here are 6 steps to teaching your children to be empathic;

1. Reading emotions

Your kids need to be taught how to read emotions through facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. Talk to them about how they feel often “you look sad, are you okay?” “Look at me, I’m serious” when talking to them are ways to make them pay attention to not just your voice but your body language too. To do this;

  • When talking to your child on phone, use, IMO, Skype or other video apps so that you can watch their body language because faces and body language are part of the conversation.
  • While watching movies, mute the sound and ask your kids about emotions Nemo is feeling when he’s reunited with his dad. Or the old man from Up is feeling when his wife dies.

2. Take a breath

Breathing properly can help people calm down and take control of their emotions, get everyone to calm down by practising breathing exercise. While playing a relaxing song, help them breathe in deeply, then exhale even more deeply.

3. Create an anthem

Create a short and catchy family anthem that you will chant as a family from time to time, for example, you or your husband will say “What are we?” and your children will respond “We are a loving family, we are caring, we are helpful and respectful, we always help!” Write this and paste it in strategic places in your home and don’t forget to repeat this in their ears. Give it a name so you can go like “Don’t forget the “good deed” rules!” when they are leaving your roof.

4. Make them read the “right” books

Ensuring your kid reads the right kind of books will help them to be smarter and also nicer, the right kind of books are the ones that’ll stir their emotion, make them pity the character in the book. Meanwhile talk to them about the characters they feel for.

5. Engage in random acts of kindness

Donating something once in a year is not a habit enough, the idea is to let them feel being kind is something you should do every day and without being coerced to do it. Encourage your child to help a kid that trips and fall down, and encourage them to do at least two nice things every day. and it doesn’t have to be great deeds, it could be as simple as saying “good morning” to an elderly person.

6. Expose them 

Let your kids meet different people they don’t normally meet every day by going out to underdeveloped countries so they can see how other people live and meet other people who are of different race, religion, and sexuality from them.

7. Show them what a real hero is

Inspire your child to know they can make a difference by putting smiles in people’s face, there are plenty examples of kids who have made a difference by impacting other people’s lives.

Train up your kids to be the kind who wouldn’t see injustice bing done to another person and stand by to look instead of helping out. Let it be known to them that it’s moral courage to stick their neck out for someone.

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How To Build Your Kid’s Character

Parents have a lot to do in their children’s life. A child can decide which course to take no matter the way his parents showed him, but if you did your part as a parent you wouldn’t have any fears knowing you did well by your kids and you’d be able to vouch for your child any time. Every parent should endeavour to build children with enviable characters, here are some tips to help you.

Here are the characters all parents should build in their children;


1. Honesty

There are many who have gone a long way just by being honest. Teach your child the importance of honesty, when they own up to doing wrong, reward them and when they lie, discipline them. Even a simple act of stealing sweets shouldn’t be ignored, although discipline should be light and the child should be told what they did wrong.


2. Hard work

I never heard of any man whom hard work killed, my mum has a saying “hard work doesn’t kill, only laziness does” Even if you’re rich, if you don’t teach your child to be hardworking, they’ll wreck the family company they are handling in just a month because hard work is not their thing.  Talk to your child about how you work hard to give him all he needs in life and why he has to do the same, starting now.

3. Positivity

This starts with you, when you wake up in the morning, be positive, “This is such a beautiful day, full of hope and promises” say this when your child is within earshot. You need to teach your child to see a good side to everything, not that there’s no bad in the world but even in darkness, teach them to see light.

4. Strength

Teach your children to be strong, especially if you have a girl child. Women are making it in the world today that’s because they never allowed themselves to be trampled in the oceans of men who are ready to push them aside and see them as nothing. Women are being widely accepted in our world today, if only such a woman will distinct herself. Teach your daughter to be strong and never back down.

You can’t have a perfect child unless he’s a robot, because humans are made to be imperfect but when you gently but firmly mould a child’s character from a young age he won’t turn around? And the credit goes to you because you will feel accomplished as a parent to such a child and you’re helping society be a better place.

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