How To Raise An Empathic Kid In This Selfish World

We live in a selfish world where everyone is all for themselves, if someone has an accident and dies, all people will say is “Thank God I’m alive!” That’s all, life goes on! Teaching your kid to empathise and have pity is one of the important things you can give to your child. If we fail to do this, we have failed as parents and as a society. The reason why the world is the way it is is because most people are selfish and are always after “me, me, me”.

Don’t blame the selfish child, blame their parents! If only parents would start encouraging their kids to be empathetic, there’s still hope that they’d grow up to be considerate of other people’s feeling in whatever they do.

Here are 6 steps to teaching your children to be empathic;

1. Reading emotions

Your kids need to be taught how to read emotions through facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice. Talk to them about how they feel often “you look sad, are you okay?” “Look at me, I’m serious” when talking to them are ways to make them pay attention to not just your voice but your body language too. To do this;

  • When talking to your child on phone, use, IMO, Skype or other video apps so that you can watch their body language because faces and body language are part of the conversation.
  • While watching movies, mute the sound and ask your kids about emotions Nemo is feeling when he’s reunited with his dad. Or the old man from Up is feeling when his wife dies.

2. Take a breath

Breathing properly can help people calm down and take control of their emotions, get everyone to calm down by practising breathing exercise. While playing a relaxing song, help them breathe in deeply, then exhale even more deeply.

3. Create an anthem

Create a short and catchy family anthem that you will chant as a family from time to time, for example, you or your husband will say “What are we?” and your children will respond “We are a loving family, we are caring, we are helpful and respectful, we always help!” Write this and paste it in strategic places in your home and don’t forget to repeat this in their ears. Give it a name so you can go like “Don’t forget the “good deed” rules!” when they are leaving your roof.

4. Make them read the “right” books

Ensuring your kid reads the right kind of books will help them to be smarter and also nicer, the right kind of books are the ones that’ll stir their emotion, make them pity the character in the book. Meanwhile talk to them about the characters they feel for.

5. Engage in random acts of kindness

Donating something once in a year is not a habit enough, the idea is to let them feel being kind is something you should do every day and without being coerced to do it. Encourage your child to help a kid that trips and fall down, and encourage them to do at least two nice things every day. and it doesn’t have to be great deeds, it could be as simple as saying “good morning” to an elderly person.

6. Expose them 

Let your kids meet different people they don’t normally meet every day by going out to underdeveloped countries so they can see how other people live and meet other people who are of different race, religion, and sexuality from them.

7. Show them what a real hero is

Inspire your child to know they can make a difference by putting smiles in people’s face, there are plenty examples of kids who have made a difference by impacting other people’s lives.

Train up your kids to be the kind who wouldn’t see injustice bing done to another person and stand by to look instead of helping out. Let it be known to them that it’s moral courage to stick their neck out for someone.

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15 Signs Your “Innocent” Child Is Lying

Children think they are very clever, and when they lie giving you that adorable look, you’ll almost believe them until you take a closer look. I asked my 5-year-old child, “what did you do to your sister” “Nothing” He said, giving me that angelic look of his, yet he was seated on his sister’s hand. Nothing indeed.

They have no qualms conning you right to your face and they feel no pinch of guilt about it, whatever they do they’ll still be your adorable little ones, though.  But I must say that some are very good at lying than others, so in order to catch them at their thing, you need to be on the red alert! So here are the signs that your innocent child is lying through his teeth;

  1. You ask him “did you bed-wet today” and she answers “No” with a squeezed face and a hand covering her wet cloth.
  2. You smell something funny and you ask “are you pooping” And she answers with a grunt “No” from behind the chair.
  3. You find call history to your old friends after your child has denied ever touching your phone yet your credit is exhausted.
  4. Crumbs of biscuit or residue of the things she claimed she didn’t eat smeared across her face or on her mouth.
  5. Scared that you might read the truth from his expression, he looks left, right and anywhere else but you as you ask questions(beware some can look straight into your eyes and lie)
  6. “Junior! Are you….” You asked from inside the room and he calls out “No, I’m not” but his sister’s muffled cry of “Yes, he is” can be heard through the pillow or hand he covered her mouth with.
  7. You ask a question, he answers, then run to a distance where your hand can’t reach him(hold him, he’s guilty)
  8. He has other people to pin the blame on and they are all denying.
  9. The child you are speaking to has one or more siblings she can pin the blame on.
  10. Her face is saying “I’m telling the truth” so is her lips but her body language says “I might run anytime soon, watch me”
  11. “What’s that sound” you asked after you heard a crash, then they replied “Nothing mom!” from inside the room, they probably just broke your bottle of perfume!
  12. “Where is the superglue” or “Where’s the needle” she casually asked and when you asked her what it’s for she replied “Nothing” Hmm…
  13. When his “No” comes out as a “Nooooooo” They are trying to assure you and calm themselves as well, which is why the “NO” has so many oooo.
  14. She said “ummmmmm’ for more than 10 seconds before answering the question you asked her.
  15. He tries to stop you from entering his room or opening the drawer.

And these are the ways you can catch your child at his lying game.

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