The act of defining a woman’s value based on her marital and maternal status has always been and is still in the history of our nation. Even if you are happy in marriage, you can’t have a “happily ever after” until you have kids, and even if your husband wants to be happy with you, will the extended family allow for it? They’d keep hammering on what you don’t have until the happiness in your family evaporates.
I really don’t think I have to be pregnant before I’m complete, I have a family that looks up to me, a foundation that I regularly donate to, and I put a lot into the society, and I feel every bit like a complete human that I am.
I’m past that stage where my husband’s family members can be victimizing me, ’cause I have done a lot in their children’s life, but I know that even though they don’t say it to my face, they still say it among themselves.
When I clocked 35, I made it known to my husband that if he so wants children badly in his life, he can go ahead and impregnate a girl, he was already clocking 40 that year and I wouldn’t want his family to look back when he’s too old to make children and lament about how I destroyed their brother’s life. I know it’s the kind of thing they can do, ’cause to them, I’ve not tried enough.
It’s just high time we realised that not having kids doesn’t make us incomplete in any way, our journey is different in life, while some are given to conceive once they try, others are given to keep trying until they get lucky I’min the last category, and although I’ve not ruled out getting pregnant, I don’t believe my life is incomplete because I don’t have kids.
On the contrary I feel fulfilled when I see the kids I’m mentoring achieving milestones in life, through giving to humanity, God might mercifully look at me and give me my own kids, and even if He doesn’t, I have no grudges with my creator, I feel fulfilled, I feel loved and I feel blessed.