Family Life

The Importance Of Love In A Home

Love in recent times has been overlooked in marriages, but how important is it still? And how does it affect the children?

Marital conflict is a common scene in most marriages, but it may have some major underlying implications most couples pay less attention to.

Did you know that your babies learn from a very early age? As early as 2 months?

Yes, babies start listening to your words right from the fetal stage when in your womb, but try to make meaning of it when born through observation.

Your baby can’t fully understand the words you say but makes meaning of it by observing emotions such as anger, pain, sadness, depression, anxiety, love etc.

As they grow babies begin to make sense of their world and what is love, who loves them, speech, daddy, and mummy etc.

So you may think the little fights and quarrels don’t have any damaging impact, except on grown children but this notion is incorrect.

Recent research has shown that exposure to stress at a tender developmental stage can have an impact on the way in which the brain functions in later years.

The researchers discovered that listening to arguments between parents even during sleep for a baby can affect how they process emotional tones of voice which makes them stressed and in later life can cause anxiety and emotional instability.

This is why as couples we need to increase the degree of love and peace in our homes and reduce the misunderstandings and fights.

Share your story with us of how you feel fighting has affected your baby.

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Read These Parenting Tips For Lastborn Children

Lastborn kids are the babies of the house. They enjoy the attention of their parent who tends to be liberal and relaxed in their expectations and enforcing rules.

Lastborn children are likely to be fun-loving, uncomplicated and self-centered. They are the little star that steals the family show so often that they can get away with offences that if it were committed by the older sibling it would have been punishable.

Here, how to get your lastborn kids to behave well and grow upright;

  1. Practice Fairness: Sometimes parents get too engrossed with the achievement of the other siblings that the last-born is just a tag along. Making time for him/her own activity will help to give a sense of identity as part of the family. Get your last born involved in all the activities at home and with other siblings, there are little aspects that he/she can fit into easily.
  2. Make Him Accountable: Like it or not lastborns tend to get away with many things their elder siblings would have received punishments for at their age. Parents must be careful in overlooking offences that deserve some disciplinary measures else, it might create some resentment in the older siblings who will notice the preferential treatment.
  3. Protect Him: Parents need to look out for the last-born child when there is a tendency to be bullied and teased by older kids. Here you need to teach the older ones to be responsible for the last born kid, step in if you need to do so to stop the intimidation.
  4. Be Willing To Turn Some Requests Down: Be ready to say no and feel good about it. Lastborn kids can be self-centred sometimes, so they request for things that they may not need by throwing tantrums to force your hands to do their bidding. When she acts this way, you should not give in to the request. Treat her like every other child in the family.
  5. Explain Situations: Sometimes it is difficult for children of different ages to play together without anyone being left out especially the youngest. Perhaps he/she cannot run fast or jump high. The lastborn child might feel left out. Parents should explain the situation of things to the kid. It is only a matter of time before he/she would be able to do what others are doing. Then you should look out for common games and things every child can do together in the family without being left out.
  6. Double-Check; it just might be a trick: One of the common traits of a lastborn is being mischievous. Your youngest child may likely exaggerate some facts in other to get some attention. For example, if your last born child observes that whenever anyone is sick in the house, they get better meals and a warm and loving care. She may feign sickness just to enjoy this goodness. Be sure to double check health facts before giving in to your child’s claim.

This guide follows the principles of birth order theory but the reality is that not all kids would fit into the mould of birth order. Some are an exception to the general. Lastborns that behave like firstborns and firstborns that act like lastborns.

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