I’m Pregnant But Get An Invitation Before Commenting On My Body

I didn’t know it’s possible to feel this way about my body during pregnancy, this is my second pregnancy and by the 6th month of my previous pregnancy my belly was already big and bulging. This second pregnancy is not the same, at 33 weeks my tummy isn’t big at all and I’m scared that something might be wrong with my baby, the comments from people aren’t helping matters either.


When they ask how long gone are you? and I answer “33 weeks” they’ll be like “wow, you’re so small” and some don’t even comment they just say their prayers and leave leaving me wondering if there’s any reason for their silence.
I dropped my child off at his school and after three of my friends there asked me when I’ll be due with the same reaction I became worried that something might really be wrong “Maybe my baby is weighing lower than normal” I thought as I drove to the hospital.

My doctor calmed my fears, though, telling me my body is doing a great job of carrying my child and there’s no need for worry was like pouring cold water on my hot body, I was really relieved.

Some people see pregnant women and feel they have the right to comment on her size and I wonder why. I had to tell my husband about how people’s comments are getting to me and his response gave me strength.

People of the world, that a woman is pregnant doesn’t make it okay for you to talk about her weight, rub her belly, or say your “wow” in a cynical way, pregnancy is personal and should be seen as such, please.

Mothers-to-be should instead be treated with compassion through your actions and words. So instead of uttering funny remarks how about saying these;

  1. How do you feel?
  2. What can I help you with?
  3. Pregnancy looks good on you

And unless the pregnant woman is close to you don’t say things like;

  • When are you due?
  • Wow. (Maybe but not about her size)
  • Are you having twins? 
  • Your belly looks small — is the baby OK? 
  • Can I touch your belly? (If the mother offers, no problem)

I know your intentions might be honourable when you ask these questions your intention might not be to hurt the pregnant woman but the truth is your word might make her anxious or encourage her.

Mamalette! How did you respond to people’s comments when you were pregnant?

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Avocado Is Good For Pregnant Women

Since I’ve known the beauty benefits of eating avocado, I don’t only eat it, after scooping out the inside and eating it with salt, I’ll rub some on my face and I tell you, it’s doing a lot for my skin. Recently, I stumbled on a study which found that avocado have a lot of benefits for pregnant women, it makes sense. The benefits of avocado is numerous and it keeps increasing, avocados are full of good fat, remember pregnant women are advised to take foods rich in folic acid when pregnant?

Good news is, avocado is a great source of folate, and especially important during the first 3 months of your pregnancy. A new study, published in the journal Nutrients, looked at the role of avocados in the diets of pregnant and lactating women. According to the study

“Avocados are unique among fruits and vegetables in that, by weight, they contain much higher amounts of the key nutrients folate and potassium, which are normally under-consumed in maternal diets. “Avocados also contain higher amounts of several non-essential compounds, such as fiber, mono-unsaturated fats, and lipid-soluble antioxidants, which have all been linked to improvements in maternal health, birth outcomes and/or breast milk quality“. Currently, US dietary advice applies only to those aged two years and above.

As to how much avocados you can eat in a day, this is what a reproductive specialist and nutritionist Doctor Andrew Orr says, “You actually can’t eat too many of them! They are full of good fats (omega oils), protein, enzymes, amino acids, vitamins and more. They’re great as a meal on their own, in green smoothies, desserts, dips… I love using them for breakfast!” He adds, “On a traditional Chinese medicine level, avocado is nourishing to both the womb and the baby. Avocado should definitely be eaten during pregnancy – and it’s a great food for fertility too”

So what’s stopping you from eating avocados every single day? It’s affordable, as you can get one for as low as #50 and you can make delicious meals out of it, I love love love guacamole.

Here are 4 delicious recipes you can try;

1. Avocado On Toast

This is simple to make and filling if you use wheat bread, mash or slice the avocado on toast. Use wheat bread as it’s healthier and  there are other ways to eat your avocado.

2. Avocado Salad 

Salad is not only healthy but you’re taking most of your nutrients all in one meal, add avocado to your salad mix to make it even more healthier. Trust me when I say avocado taste great in salad.

3. Guacamole

Guacamole is not only simple to make but delicious! To prepare, mash up an avocado, then add some lime and salt to taste (or skip the salt altogether). You can eat guacamole with boiled eggs, noodles and what have you. 

4. Baked Egg In An Avocado

Baked eggs in avocados tastes heavenly! Cut your avocado into two, remove the seed inside, place it on a bowl making sure it’s balanced so it doesn’t tip over. Then crack two eggs in a bowl, make sure the yolk doesn’t split, then spoon the two yolks into the centre of each avocado hole, add egg white until each hole is full. Bake for 15 to 20 minutes at 220C (425F) until the eggs are cooked. You can choose to season with salt, pepper or anything you like.It’s a delicious delight.


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