Parenting

How do You Protect Your Kids from Pedophiles



We live in a world where child safety, sexual exploitation is a serious issue that we cannot sweep under carpet. It has to be discussed extensively to protect our kids.

Predators and pedophile are closer than you think and so many children have fallen victims to their antics.

Teach your kids about their body: Teach your children about appropriate touch, tell them their body is their own and they can say NO not minding who the person is. You need to know that a child who is sexually abused may not understand it but that child will be scared and would feel uncomfortable.



Be vigilant and ask questions: You know your kids as you observe them from day to day, yes they have temperament but you will sense the difference when your child begins to act funny. Be at alert, when your child withdraws, refuses to play with some people, regress in toilet training, inability to concentrate, defensive and clingy. This is a sign, watch it and be vigilant, ask questions and get to the root of it.

Have an honest and open discussion with your kids:
Pedophiles make children feel that ‘no one believe you’, ‘if you tell your mother, I will not buy …’ they persuade them to keep secrets and buy gifts to bribe them. Talk to your kids and build trust so they can confide in you. Ask questions like ‘Is there anything you want to tell me? “Don’t be the parents that shout on your kids when they want to have a conversation with you.

Do not enforce endearment: Do not force your kids to hug or kiss any adult. Let your child decide if they want to do that because in reality the less the kisses the less the germs isn’t it? Encourage high fives in place of hugs or kiss.

Keep your kids close in public places: Many children have been lured away by predators who find it easy to entice little children with attractive things like toys, pet, etc. If your child can fit into a baby carrier, pram then put them in it. If they are a bit grown, you can use a cord that you attach to their hands and yours so they don’t stray beyond a certain distance. If you can’t do all of this, hold your their hands tightly and don’t let them go alone to the bathroom, toilet without you or any adult supervision.

Teach and enforce security measures: The basic rule is to teach your kids not to talk to strangers or go anywhere with a stranger. Teach your kids to seek your permission before going out or participating in activities outside the home. Also activate parental control/safety software on your internet, Television access to unhealthy programmes that can lure kids away etc.

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Don’t Judge Me By The Clothes My Kids Wear



Despite all the talk about why people should not judge others, I think some women have made other people’s issues their life matter. My daughter needed a pantyhose for her cute little gown and as y’all know Okrika pantyhoses last longer if you can get a good one. So I took my 10-year-old girl with me to Yaba market to “bend down” and select.

As I was picking and checking out the stuffs for my kids, I lifted my eyes and I saw a woman who has a mini supermarket in my area, our eyes met so out of courtesy I greeted her while checking out a brown pantyhose which I intend buying.

“Na for here you dey do am?” she asked with her voice dripping with sarcasm, “do wetin” I asked blankly as if I didn’t know what she’s referring to, she made a tss-tss sound with her teeth and said bye-bye to my girl as she left, I felt horrible.

That was mean I thought but that was only a tip of what was to come. My daughter wore her beautiful dress and her brown pantyhose to the end of the year party. Towards the end of the event, the same woman came to meet me, “you really tried with the solo song” she complimented my daughter, all the while staring at the pantyhose she was wearing until my girl became uncomfortable. To



To me she said “Iya Sandra you shouldn’t embarrass your children like that o” I nodded and moved away from her before I could say something bad and have a catfight in public.

She didn’t just humiliate me, she humiliated my child and if my girl didn’t know better she might go thinking her mom hates her which is why she buys her cheap clothes. The dress in question cost me 5,000 and it’s a new one.

Trust me to fire back at the nosy woman, I told my friend about the ish and right there we moved close to where she was, we made sure she could hear us and to my friend I said “People sabi do pass themselves o, dem go dey spend like say money na sand sand yet when you check their bank account shingbain no dey” then my friend who is a

Then my friend who is arenownedd talker replied “no be their fault o, na their type go dey collect 2 cups of garri for area when dem don broke finish” We both burst into laughter and from the corner of my eyes I saw her drag her feet and leave in search of her kids.

I’m sure I didn’t exactly teach her a lesson but she made me feel like I’m not good enough as a mother, as a matter of fact I buy new clothes for my kids, and for the record, I only buy grade A Okrika for my kids if I have to. 

Yes she was rude but what I can’t understand is why society thinks cheaper clothes are of less quality and why is it embarrasing to wear something that’s not expensive?

If I buy a Tshirt for 1k, and you buy the same one for 5k, if I’m still wearing my 1k T shirt your own might be stretched out and bleached white.

Unless it’s made of gold and will be a sure ticket to heaven I wouldn’t buy a 20,000 designer shirt for my child because it won’t last until the last days neither will it give him super powers. I don’t care if it’s designers or not because when people see it on him it’s just another cloth.

Instead of buying a 20,000 shirt for him I’d rather buy 10 of the shirts for 2k each and it will even last longer because he’ll have different ones to change into and when he pours palm oil on it I won’t scream holy sh**t and beat the crap out of him. Because kids are rough and don’t know if you bought their shirt for a million they just wanna play rough and have fun.

Your kids don’t know how expensive an item is, they don’t care about the price tag, all they want is that cartoon shirt even if it’s sold for 100 naira, if you teach your child early in life that expensive things make all the difference then you are teaching them to live extravagantly.

And if you are in the act of judging other mothers because they buy their children cheap things desist, instead when you see someone insulting such a woman support her and fight for her. Making another woman feel inadequate.

Mamalette! If you’re ever in my shoes what would you do? Share your comment below

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