Parenting

How do You Protect Your Kids from Pedophiles


We live in a world where child safety, sexual exploitation is a serious issue that we cannot sweep under carpet. It has to be discussed extensively to protect our kids.

Predators and pedophile are closer than you think and so many children have fallen victims to their antics.

Teach your kids about their body: Teach your children about appropriate touch, tell them their body is their own and they can say NO not minding who the person is. You need to know that a child who is sexually abused may not understand it but that child will be scared and would feel uncomfortable.


Be vigilant and ask questions: You know your kids as you observe them from day to day, yes they have temperament but you will sense the difference when your child begins to act funny. Be at alert, when your child withdraws, refuses to play with some people, regress in toilet training, inability to concentrate, defensive and clingy. This is a sign, watch it and be vigilant, ask questions and get to the root of it.

Have an honest and open discussion with your kids:
Pedophiles make children feel that ‘no one believe you’, ‘if you tell your mother, I will not buy …’ they persuade them to keep secrets and buy gifts to bribe them. Talk to your kids and build trust so they can confide in you. Ask questions like ‘Is there anything you want to tell me? “Don’t be the parents that shout on your kids when they want to have a conversation with you.

Do not enforce endearment: Do not force your kids to hug or kiss any adult. Let your child decide if they want to do that because in reality the less the kisses the less the germs isn’t it? Encourage high fives in place of hugs or kiss.

Keep your kids close in public places: Many children have been lured away by predators who find it easy to entice little children with attractive things like toys, pet, etc. If your child can fit into a baby carrier, pram then put them in it. If they are a bit grown, you can use a cord that you attach to their hands and yours so they don’t stray beyond a certain distance. If you can’t do all of this, hold your their hands tightly and don’t let them go alone to the bathroom, toilet without you or any adult supervision.

Teach and enforce security measures: The basic rule is to teach your kids not to talk to strangers or go anywhere with a stranger. Teach your kids to seek your permission before going out or participating in activities outside the home. Also activate parental control/safety software on your internet, Television access to unhealthy programmes that can lure kids away etc.

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How To Build Your Kid’s Character


Parents have a lot to do in their children’s life. A child can decide which course to take no matter the way his parents showed him, but if you did your part as a parent you wouldn’t have any fears knowing you did well by your kids and you’d be able to vouch for your child any time. Every parent should endeavour to build children with enviable characters, here are some tips to help you.

Here are the characters all parents should build in their children;

 

1. Honesty

There are many who have gone a long way just by being honest. Teach your child the importance of honesty, when they own up to doing wrong, reward them and when they lie, discipline them. Even a simple act of stealing sweets shouldn’t be ignored, although discipline should be light and the child should be told what they did wrong.

 

2. Hard work

I never heard of any man whom hard work killed, my mum has a saying “hard work doesn’t kill, only laziness does” Even if you’re rich, if you don’t teach your child to be hardworking, they’ll wreck the family company they are handling in just a month because hard work is not their thing.  Talk to your child about how you work hard to give him all he needs in life and why he has to do the same, starting now.


3. Positivity

This starts with you, when you wake up in the morning, be positive, “This is such a beautiful day, full of hope and promises” say this when your child is within earshot. You need to teach your child to see a good side to everything, not that there’s no bad in the world but even in darkness, teach them to see light.

4. Strength

Teach your children to be strong, especially if you have a girl child. Women are making it in the world today that’s because they never allowed themselves to be trampled in the oceans of men who are ready to push them aside and see them as nothing. Women are being widely accepted in our world today, if only such a woman will distinct herself. Teach your daughter to be strong and never back down.

You can’t have a perfect child unless he’s a robot, because humans are made to be imperfect but when you gently but firmly mould a child’s character from a young age he won’t turn around? And the credit goes to you because you will feel accomplished as a parent to such a child and you’re helping society be a better place.

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