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How Can Mums Build Their Self-Confidence?

“The way you think about yourself determines your reality. You are not being hurt by the way people think about you. Many of those people are a reflection of how you think about yourself.”– Shannon L. Alder

The question is do really feel confident about yourself? Do find yourself not doing something you enjoy doing or not trying something that you are really good at because of a lack of confidence? You feel you’re not going enough We all have fears and worries, which is part of life. True confidence comes from your heart. No matter what anyone chooses to say whether good or hurtful words to you, you can choose to believe what you want. Nobody can make that choice, you own it Mamalette. 

You can build confidence in the following ways;

1.Say positive things into your life: There is a saying whatever you keep saying, it eventually come to pass. Speak good and affirmative words. Your words are powerful and it goes a long in affecting our lives. Your thoughts are really powerful and they change our behaviours, decisions. Once you start to believe in yourself and saying good words both morning and night to yourself, the world will too. But it begins with you, no else will do it for except you. It easier said than done, but that’s the more reason you should practice it.

2. Slay it, I will say: Because you are a mom, doesn’t mean you dress well. You will be judged based on the way you are dressed. Well, you don’t have to wear expensive clothes. You go for something classic and simple. Wear hairstyle your face perfume, shoes that look good and makes you feel comfortable. Your appearance contributes to your self-confidence.

3.  Exercise: Besides all of the benefits, exercising can boost your confidence in many ways. It helps you feel better and energized and it makes you more productive.

4. Try to be clean within and out: A mum’s job is a tough one but you can attain a clean environment in a small stride. Do you work little by little without piling it up till it is a whole lot? Washing, cooking, cleaning can be done gradually.

5. Pay attention to body language: The way that you carry yourself can say more about you as a person. You don’t have to tell someone about yourself for them to determine who you are. 

6. Engage in profitable money-making activities: You can make money while caring for your home. Thank God for technology, you could work from home if your husband doesn’t want to. There are so many legit jobs you do that pays well, you could start a course online and earn a certificate that gives you honours. You could acquire skills to boost your resume or volunteer to work in an organization.

7. Cultivate a savings culture: As you make the money, invest your income into assets that bring wealth.  Consume less and save more.

8. Stop comparing yourself to others: Self-comparison is a waste of time. No one is better or worse than anyone else. We all have our strength and weakness. You are only hurting yourself when you do this. No one can ever be like you even if there is a replicate of you.

9. Learn to say NO when it is necessary: You can’t always please people because what people want from you are insatiable. People who lack confidence tend to be ‘’people-pleasers” who have trouble saying no.

10. Surround yourself with positive people: If the people in your life make you feel like you aren’t enough, you don’t have the right people in your life. Make sure your squad is full of people who want to build you up and support you. Positive people will make you more positive.

11. Set  goals for yourself: Try to do something new weekly or daily. Try to explore new ideas and things you are interested in and have been willing to do all this while. You could read a book, learn a new language, travel, etc. Dear mamalette, remember you are smart, you are brave and you can be confident.

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Common Childhood Cancers And Treatment Options  

The body is made up of cells that are vital to life. When some of these cells grow out of control, they become abnormal.

The body process for growth of new cells involves replacing old cells with new ones but sometimes the process goes wrong and then new cells are formed even when the body does not need demand the old cell refuses to die.

These extra cells can form a tumour, which is either benign or malignant. Malignant tend to be cancerous because they invade surrounding tissues while benign tumours are not cancerous. There are over 200 different types of cancer. Cancer that occurs in adult varies largely from those that occur in children. The commonest types of cancer that affect children are

  1. Leukemia
  2. Brain and spinal cord tumors
  3. Neuroblastoma
  4. Lymphoma (including both Hodgkin and non-Hodgkin)
  5. Rhabdomyosarcoma
  6. Retinoblastoma
  7. Bone cancer (including osteosarcoma and Ewing sarcoma)
  8. Wilms tumor


Leukaemia is cancer that affects the blood and bone marrow. It accounts for 30% of all the cases of cancer affecting children. Acute lymphocytic leukaemia (ALL) and acute myelogenous leukaemia (AML) are the commonest types of Leukaemia found in children. Children with this disease often suffer weakness, bone and joint pain, fatigue, bleeding, fever, weight loss etc.  As soon as acute leukaemia is detected, it needs to be treated quickly because it grows fast.

Brain and Spinal cord tumours

Most brain tumours in children occur in the lower parts of the brain causing blurred vision headaches, dizziness, nausea, vomiting, and seizures, finding it hard to handle objects and walk properly. Spinal cord tumours are not as common as brain tumours. Brain and Spinal cord tumours account for 26% of childhood cancer. It is second to Luekaemia in its prevalent among children.  There are different types of brain tumours that demand different treatment.


Neuroblastoma develops in infants and young children less than 10 years old. Usually, it grows from some nerve cells in the foetus.  This can occur in any part of the body but it usually starts in the belly as a swelling, which causes bone pain and fever.  It accounts for about 6% of childhood cancers.

Wilms Tumour

Wilms tumour also is known as nephroblastoma affects the kidney. It is common among kids between 3 to 4 years old. It can present as a lump or swelling around the abdomen. Some of the symptoms are fever, pain, nausea, or poor appetite. Wilms tumour accounts for about 5% of childhood cancers.


Lymphomas affects the immune system cells known as lymphocytes. It also affects the bone marrow and other organs of the body. There are two main types of lymphoma -Hodgkin lymphoma (Hodgkin disease) and non-Hodgkin lymphoma. Some of the symptoms of lymphomas are weight loss, fever, sweats, tiredness, and swollen lymph nodes under the skin.


This type of cancer affects the cells responsible for the growth of skeletal muscles. It can start in any part of the body. It presents with swellings and pain at the part affected.


Retinoblastoma is the type of cancer that affects the eye. It usually occurs in children around the age of two, and it is rarely found in children older than 6. The child’s eye is unusual in the sense that when you shine a torch on the pupil it turns white instead of red.

Bone Cancers

This type of cancer affects the bones. It often occurs in teens and older kids but it can start at any age.  The two main types of bone cancer found in children are Osteosarcoma and Ewing sarcoma.

Treatment of Childhood Cancers

The treatment for cancer depends on the type of cancer involved and how advanced it is. These treatments include chemotherapy, radiation therapy, surgery, stem cell transplants and targeted therapy.

Chemotherapy: Chemotherapy refers to drugs that kill actively growing cancerous cells. Cancer cells grow rapidly without heeding the normal signals of the body that control the growth of cells.

Immunotherapy: Immunotherapy, also known as targeted therapy or biotherapy. It is a cancer treatment that invigorates a patient’s immune system so it is equipped to fight disease. This is done in partnership with other cancer treatments.

Radiation Therapy: Radiation is a form of X-rays that is used to create images of areas of the body that cannot be easily seen. Cancer treatment requires higher doses of radiation. It works by preventing and destroying the growth and reproduction of dividing cells

Bone marrow transplant: This involves the replacement of the faulty spongy tissue or stem cells  inside the bones.  These stem cells are the ones that develop into red blood cells, which helps to fight infections. This is used in the treatment of bone cancer.

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