While some kids love being around people, love attention and make sure people see them, and they can chat endlessly, there are shy kids too. The likes who prefer to play by themselves, who would still play alone even if they’re in the midst of their friends. Their only friend is their mum, they don’t talk in class but can come home and recite everything they were taught and yes, they are affected by their environment.
Shy kids are great, as they are often kinder than other kids but if your child’s shyness stops them from living properly then you should help them come out of their shell. And here’s how you can help your shy child;
1. Know what’s up
Find out if your child is really shy before trying to help them out, you might think your child is shy when they’re just introverted. The difference between introverts and shy kids is that introverts are easily tired out with too much socialising so they enjoy playing alone while shy kids would have loved to play with other kids they are just afraid of being rejected. A child might be shy and introverted at the same time, find out which it is.
2. Don’t label them shy
Calling your child shy will not help them. If your child wouldn’t play with their mate and you’re like “he’s shy” your child might start thinking that he’s really shy and therefore not make an effort to reach out to his mates. They might also become anxious when they are around their mates.
3. Don’t use force
Forcing your child to come out is not a good idea either. If your child doesn’t want to attend a party instead of forcing him go to the party with him and sit down with him for a while until he relax. Once he’s relaxed he should be fine but if he still doesn’t want to stay then take him home.
4. Be understanding
You might be frustrated when other kids are playing and your child is clinging t your wrapper, but never show your frustration by getting angry over it. It’s not going to help for your child to think he has disappointed you, instead ask them why they don’t want to party or play with their friends. Criticism and rejected is the reason they don’t want to play with their friends don’t give them that again.
If you’re the type that doesn’t go out, start now. When you are going out take your child along, let your child see how easy it is to talk and play with one’s friend. You can go visit your friend who has children too and while you’re talking to your friend encourage your child to go play with the other children.
6. Praise them
When your kids make effort to be friendly or they act kindly towards others, praise them. This will boost their self-esteem and let them be aware of their good qualities.
7. Enrol them in a class
If you have an older child you can do this. They might not want this, but enrolling them in other after-school activities, clubs or classes will help them as they will be meeting more people and they have to relate with them. Drama group, dance, music, literary clubs and so many others exist in schools.
8. Teach them basic social skills
Your child might not know what to do when they meet new people, teach them to shake hands, smile, and respond to people politely.
And finally, I must say that to build their confidence in themselves, you have to give them responsibilities you think they can handle, the more success they have in accomplishing those tasks the more confident they’ll be in themselves. Also, remember to encourage them to visit their friend and ask their friend to their house.