School Age

Help Your Shy Child Come Out Of Their Shell



While some kids love being around people, love attention and make sure people see them, and they can chat endlessly, there are shy kids too. The likes who prefer to play by themselves, who would still play alone even if they’re in the midst of their friends. Their only friend is their mum, they don’t talk in class but can come home and recite everything they were taught and yes, they are affected by their environment.

Shy kids are great, as they are often kinder than other kids but if your child’s shyness stops them from living properly then you should help them come out of their shell.  And here’s how you can help your shy child;

1. Know what’s up

Find out if your child is really shy before trying to help them out, you might think your child is shy when they’re just introverted. The difference between introverts and shy kids is that introverts are easily tired out with too much socialising so they enjoy playing alone while shy kids would have loved to play with other kids they are just afraid of being rejected. A child might be shy and introverted at the same time, find out which it is.

2. Don’t label them shy

Calling your child shy will not help them. If your child wouldn’t play with their mate and you’re like “he’s shy” your child might start thinking that he’s really shy and therefore not make an effort to reach out to his mates. They might also become anxious when they are around their mates.



3. Don’t use force

Forcing your child to come out is not a good idea either. If your child doesn’t want to attend a party instead of forcing him go to the party with him and sit down with him for a while until he relax. Once he’s relaxed he should be fine but if he still doesn’t want to stay then take him home.

4. Be understanding

You might be frustrated when other kids are playing and your child is clinging t your wrapper, but never show your frustration by getting angry over it. It’s not going to help for your child to think he has disappointed you, instead ask them why they don’t want to party or play with their friends. Criticism and rejected is the reason they don’t want to play with their friends don’t give them that again.

5. Socialise

If you’re the type that doesn’t go out, start now. When you are going out take your child along, let your child see how easy it is to talk and play with one’s friend. You can go visit your friend who has children too and while you’re talking to your friend encourage your child to go play with the other children.

6. Praise them

When your kids make effort to be friendly or they act kindly towards others, praise them. This will boost their self-esteem and let them be aware of their good qualities.

7. Enrol them in a class

If you have an older child you can do this. They might not want this, but enrolling them in other after-school activities, clubs or classes will help them as they will be meeting more people and they have to relate with them. Drama group, dance, music, literary clubs and so many others exist in schools.

8. Teach them basic social skills

Your child might not know what to do when they meet new people, teach them to shake hands, smile, and respond to people politely.

And finally, I must say that to build their confidence in themselves, you have to give them responsibilities you think they can handle, the more success they have in accomplishing those tasks the more confident they’ll be in themselves. Also, remember to encourage them to visit their friend and ask their friend to their house.

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Does Your Child Itch Uncontrollably At Night? It Just Might Be Scabies



Scabies is an itchy rash that is caused by tiny mites called Sarcoptes scabiei.

These mites burrow into and lay egg under the skin. It is a common rash that spread fast through skin-to-skin contact. If your baby has been scratching his skin especially in the night then it might be scabies!

In the beginning, you can easily overlook the presence of scabies because it looks similar to the other types of rashes.  One of the distinct and unmistakable sign is that of continuous itching and trails of burrows on the skin where the female mite lays her egg.



The burrow trails are usually greyish to white colour. Mites often prefer the head, neck, face, palms, and soles of the feet to lay its egg. Scabies in children does not manifest fast. It takes about a month to six weeks for the skin to react to the infection. Scabies does not happen because your child or home is dirty.

Symptoms of Scabies in Kids

  • Unrelenting itching especially at night or after a hot bath
  • A pimple like rashes
  • Scales or blisters
  • Sores (due to scratching)

Ways of Contracting Scabies

Scabies mites can live up to two to three days on the surface of clothes, bedding, or towels. Scabies can easily spread fast at crowded places, day care centres where mites can easily crawl from one person to the other which could be from a caregiver or from infant to infants.

If an infected child shares beddings, play mats or towels and other clothing items it can escalate the outbreak. It is easy to catch it from an infected family member too.

Kids cannot contract scabies from pets because the mites that infect them is different from the one that infect humans.

Treatment of Scabies

If you confirmed that your baby has scabies and he attends a daycare then you have to notify the caregivers so they can contain the spread and get appropriate treatment for themselves and other babies even if they are not showing any signs of infection. Scabies is an infection that you cannot wave aside and wait it out, it needs to be treated with medications from the doctor to kill the mites.

Your child will have to stay at home until treatment is completed. Your doctor will likely prescribe a lotion or cream (usually 5% permethrin cream) to put on your baby’s skin.

Give your child a lukewarm bath or shower and dry her skin gently before you apply the cream all over the body. You can reapply on the hand if the child washes it off.  Leave the cream on for 8-12 hours. If your child has scabies, then the whole family should be treated at the same time.

Wash all clothing, linen, towels and soft toys, using the hottest setting possible to destroy the mites and its eggs. Vacuum all carpets and mattresses. For the things you can’t wash, spray them with insecticide and leave them closed in a plastic bag for up to a week to avoid reinfection.

If the itching continues for more than four weeks or a new rash appears, go see your doctor. Do not reapply the lotion or cream unless your doctor recommended it.

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