School Age

Help Your Shy Child Come Out Of Their Shell


While some kids love being around people, love attention and make sure people see them, and they can chat endlessly, there are shy kids too. The likes who prefer to play by themselves, who would still play alone even if they’re in the midst of their friends. Their only friend is their mum, they don’t talk in class but can come home and recite everything they were taught and yes, they are affected by their environment.

Shy kids are great, as they are often kinder than other kids but if your child’s shyness stops them from living properly then you should help them come out of their shell.  And here’s how you can help your shy child;

1. Know what’s up

Find out if your child is really shy before trying to help them out, you might think your child is shy when they’re just introverted. The difference between introverts and shy kids is that introverts are easily tired out with too much socialising so they enjoy playing alone while shy kids would have loved to play with other kids they are just afraid of being rejected. A child might be shy and introverted at the same time, find out which it is.

2. Don’t label them shy

Calling your child shy will not help them. If your child wouldn’t play with their mate and you’re like “he’s shy” your child might start thinking that he’s really shy and therefore not make an effort to reach out to his mates. They might also become anxious when they are around their mates.


3. Don’t use force

Forcing your child to come out is not a good idea either. If your child doesn’t want to attend a party instead of forcing him go to the party with him and sit down with him for a while until he relax. Once he’s relaxed he should be fine but if he still doesn’t want to stay then take him home.

4. Be understanding

You might be frustrated when other kids are playing and your child is clinging t your wrapper, but never show your frustration by getting angry over it. It’s not going to help for your child to think he has disappointed you, instead ask them why they don’t want to party or play with their friends. Criticism and rejected is the reason they don’t want to play with their friends don’t give them that again.

5. Socialise

If you’re the type that doesn’t go out, start now. When you are going out take your child along, let your child see how easy it is to talk and play with one’s friend. You can go visit your friend who has children too and while you’re talking to your friend encourage your child to go play with the other children.

6. Praise them

When your kids make effort to be friendly or they act kindly towards others, praise them. This will boost their self-esteem and let them be aware of their good qualities.

7. Enrol them in a class

If you have an older child you can do this. They might not want this, but enrolling them in other after-school activities, clubs or classes will help them as they will be meeting more people and they have to relate with them. Drama group, dance, music, literary clubs and so many others exist in schools.

8. Teach them basic social skills

Your child might not know what to do when they meet new people, teach them to shake hands, smile, and respond to people politely.

And finally, I must say that to build their confidence in themselves, you have to give them responsibilities you think they can handle, the more success they have in accomplishing those tasks the more confident they’ll be in themselves. Also, remember to encourage them to visit their friend and ask their friend to their house.

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These Are The Reasons You Should Let Your Kids Play


Have you noticed that babies have no worries in the world; all they do is to play, eat and sleep. I am sure you envy your baby but do not worry you have had your own turn, let him have his too!

You may wonder what is special about playing but it is more than that. It is essential that babies be allowed to play because playing itself is beyond playing. Playing involves skill building, problem solving, relationship management, surmounting physical and mental challenge. It helps in physical, emotional, mental and social development.

Play helps to build the imagination of your child: Kids at about the age of two can act out different roles. They can pretend to be a soldier, teacher or mummy and even turn his potty into a cap, pots into drums, spoon into drumsticks. You can try out using household items to create a playful scene while your child plays a different role. When you allow your child to lead in playing, you are able to discern his level of understanding on what stands out for him in your day-to-day interaction.


Play builds your child’s social skill: When kids start playing, they play individually as they grow; they begin to interact with others while playing. They learn how to share, take turns, cooperate and negotiate as they interact with their friends at school.  You can help your child interact more with other kids at the park, church, mosques by setting up playtime with other families.

Play helps your child develop physically: When your child plays with toys, blocks and participate in sporting activities, he develops his strength, sense of coordination (eye and hand) and balance. All this can be displayed in the process of running, pedalling his bicycle, arrange blocks to form a shape.

Play shows behavioural challenges that your child is experiencing: When your child plays especially at home, some of the actions your child does gives you a glimpse of the behavioural challenges your child may be going through and the opportunity to correct it through play. If your child models a bad action, playfully model the good action

Other nonphysical benefits of play include reduction of stress, crankiness. When your child plays, he has little or no tendency to be grumpy, tense. Physical plays also help to ward off obesity.

During play give your child free reins to determine how things will play out and follow his lead while being mindful of safety. Playing along with your kids help to build their self-esteem that you find what they do interesting and worth engaging.

With all these numerous benefits, I know you would encourage your kids to play more but you can support play by being involved in the play with your kids rather than watching television. You can play hide-and-seek, dance to music indoors and play ball or ride a bicycle together

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