First Trimester

For Me, Pregnancy Is Hard Work

I know many are women who think pregnancy is hard like I do, but how many would dare talk for fear of being criticized? I’m not a murmurer but if I feel somehow about something I’ll say it. I’m pregnant and when I was telling my friend about how I hate the extra discharge I’ve been experiencing,

“You should thank God for yourself, some are wishing for what you’re experiencing” I was hurt, I want this pregnancy but if I don’t like the things happening to my body am I wrong to talk about it?

I’m thankful and why shouldn’t I, I have two children already and this is my third pregnancy but I don’t love everything about pregnancy.

I love only three things about pregnancy, the baby movement, the outcome i.e my baby and the pampering I get from my husband and everyone else. And that’s all.

Every other thing ain’t sexy at all. I hear some women say they miss pregnancy and I wonder what they missed about it.

I hate my pregnancy mornings, my face look puffed up and pimples filled, the first food I eat in the mornings end up in the toilet for the first three months and I can’t even sit for long! My feet will be swollen and my shoes will be hurting my feet.

I have to say to those women out there who are looking for the fruit of the womb that may God open your womb so you can experience the joy of children, but I don’t want you to be like “she’s ungrateful”

Like I said earlier I am, I’m just not going to follow the crowd’s notion that pregnancy is beautiful ’cause for me, it’s not! It’s just like the proverbial black pot out of which comes out white pap, pregnancy is yuck but from it comes a beautiful human that you’ll love more than life itself.

There are days when I have to wear two pantyliners a day because of excess discharge, I don’t like the way I smell, my hair pulls out when I comb it.

My sweet husband, bless his heart, is always trying to assure me that I look beautiful but I don’t ever remember being beautiful during pregnancy, when I sneeze or cough I pee and if not for pantyliners I would have been smelling of goodness knows what!

I rarely get 5 hours sleep, talk of 7 hours sleep. I wake up often at midnight, sometimes to adjust my position as no position is ever convenient for me or to pee (there are days I pee 6 times before daybreak). Then I’ll wake up the next morning sleepy-eyed and looking like an owl.

I’ve not even talked about the fear, the fear that something is wrong with the baby if he fails to kick, I thought I would have overcome that fear after my second pregnancy but even now that’s my greatest fear, losing my child. I’m constantly in a state of fear and anxiety as I suffered pre-eclampsia with my second child. What would it bring this time around? I often ask myself.



This is my third pregnancy and No, I’ve never enjoyed pregnancy and I’m not enjoying it right now. I disgraced myself in front of my mother-in-law yesterday, my husband smacked me lovingly and how did I repay him? With fart!

I laughed so hard and I fart and had to go out of the living room out of embarrassment. I’ve not been able to look my MIL in the face since yesterday, who farts in the face of her mother-in-law? Ask me!

I think pregnant women have the right to speak about the things they don’t like about pregnancy without being held in the neck for it.

Mamalette! What are the things you don’t like about pregnancy?

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Early Signs That You Might Be Pregnant

Most women don’t suspect or think they are pregnant until they notice that they have missed their menstrual period, but even before then there would have been some signs that you are pregnant.

Pregnancy symptoms begin at 4 weeks. Normally you get your period about 4 weeks from the start of your last period, but if you’re pregnant, the clearest sign at this point is a missed period. Many women still feel fine at 4 weeks, but others may notice sore breasts, fatigue, frequent urination, and nausea. Since every woman is different they have different symptoms during pregnancy.

And some of the earliest signs that you are pregnant include:

  • Shortness of Breath -You might be begin to notice that the normal distance that you would normally take has suddenly become a chore.
  • Sore Breasts – you would probably begin to notice that your breast feel tender and heavy. Pronounced veins and darkened areola are said to be the first sign that you are pregnant.
  • Fatigue – You would begin to get exhausted easily. This tiredness usually continues all through the first trimester and get better by the second trimester.
  • Nausea – For a lot of women nausea usually starts at the about 6 weeks but some might begin to feel nauseous from the 4th week of pregnancy and usually reduces by the second semester. Pregnant women are advised the manage the nausea by taking crackers and ginger tea.
  • Frequent Urination – You might begin to notice that your visit to the toilet has become more frequent than usual. This occurs are mainly because the blood flow to the woman’s kidneys increases. This increased urine production peaks by about 9 to 16 weeks of the pregnancy, then settles down.
  • Headaches – You might begin to notice that you are having headaches frequently this is usually as a result of the changes in hormones happening in your body. If you are pregnant it is advised that to handle the headaches you seek the advice of your doctor for safe painkillers to use.
  • Backaches – If you don’t normally have backaches, you might begin to notice that your back is sore. This happens because your ligaments are becoming loose and this would probably continue all through your pregnancy as your baby becomes bigger.
  • Cravings or Food Aversions – If you begin to crave or suddenly can’t stand some food that you eat normally it might be an early sign of pregnancy.
  • Constipation and Bloating – if you suddenly begin to feel constipated or bloated it could be a sign of pregnancy. It might be extra progesterone due to pregnancy, which slows down your digestive system.
  • Mood Swings – Most pregnant women go through different emotion mainly due to the increase of hormones. Some moms-to-be experience heightened emotions, both good and bad, while others feel more depressed or anxious.
  • Heightened Sense of Smell – If you are suddenly sensitive to different smell it might be because you are pregnant.
  • Dizziness – We have seen it in a lot of movies but its is actually based on reality. If you suddenly begin to feel dizzy it could be a sign that you are pregnant.
  • Spotting or Light Bleeding – It is usually earlier than normal and very light unlike your normal period. You may actually be experiencing implantation bleeding, where the fertilized egg attaches to the uterine wall and causes a little bloodshed.
  • Missed Period– This usually one of the most obvious signs of pregnancy and it is at this point that people begin to take note of the other symptoms they have been feeling. Missed period would only be noticed if the person’s period is usually regular.
  • Positive Pregnancy Test– This usually gives a more definite answer to whether you are pregnant or not and it can be done anywhere.

It is usually advised that after taking a home pregnancy test, you should also go to the hospital to take a blood test. Then if it comes out positive your doctor would be able to advise you on the next step to take to ensure a smooth pregnancy and safe delivery.


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