Don’t Judge Me By The Clothes My Kids Wear

Despite all the talk about why people should not judge others, I think some women have made other people’s issues their life matter. My daughter needed a pantyhose for her cute little gown and as y’all know Okrika pantyhoses last longer if you can get a good one. So I took my 10-year-old girl with me to Yaba market to “bend down” and select.

As I was picking and checking out the stuffs for my kids, I lifted my eyes and I saw a woman who has a mini supermarket in my area, our eyes met so out of courtesy I greeted her while checking out a brown pantyhose which I intend buying.

“Na for here you dey do am?” she asked with her voice dripping with sarcasm, “do wetin” I asked blankly as if I didn’t know what she’s referring to, she made a tss-tss sound with her teeth and said bye-bye to my girl as she left, I felt horrible.

That was mean I thought but that was only a tip of what was to come. My daughter wore her beautiful dress and her brown pantyhose to the end of the year party. Towards the end of the event, the same woman came to meet me, “you really tried with the solo song” she complimented my daughter, all the while staring at the pantyhose she was wearing until my girl became uncomfortable. To

To me she said “Iya Sandra you shouldn’t embarrass your children like that o” I nodded and moved away from her before I could say something bad and have a catfight in public.

She didn’t just humiliate me, she humiliated my child and if my girl didn’t know better she might go thinking her mom hates her which is why she buys her cheap clothes. The dress in question cost me 5,000 and it’s a new one.

Trust me to fire back at the nosy woman, I told my friend about the ish and right there we moved close to where she was, we made sure she could hear us and to my friend I said “People sabi do pass themselves o, dem go dey spend like say money na sand sand yet when you check their bank account shingbain no dey” then my friend who is a

Then my friend who is arenownedd talker replied “no be their fault o, na their type go dey collect 2 cups of garri for area when dem don broke finish” We both burst into laughter and from the corner of my eyes I saw her drag her feet and leave in search of her kids.

I’m sure I didn’t exactly teach her a lesson but she made me feel like I’m not good enough as a mother, as a matter of fact I buy new clothes for my kids, and for the record, I only buy grade A Okrika for my kids if I have to. 

Yes she was rude but what I can’t understand is why society thinks cheaper clothes are of less quality and why is it embarrasing to wear something that’s not expensive?

If I buy a Tshirt for 1k, and you buy the same one for 5k, if I’m still wearing my 1k T shirt your own might be stretched out and bleached white.

Unless it’s made of gold and will be a sure ticket to heaven I wouldn’t buy a 20,000 designer shirt for my child because it won’t last until the last days neither will it give him super powers. I don’t care if it’s designers or not because when people see it on him it’s just another cloth.

Instead of buying a 20,000 shirt for him I’d rather buy 10 of the shirts for 2k each and it will even last longer because he’ll have different ones to change into and when he pours palm oil on it I won’t scream holy sh**t and beat the crap out of him. Because kids are rough and don’t know if you bought their shirt for a million they just wanna play rough and have fun.

Your kids don’t know how expensive an item is, they don’t care about the price tag, all they want is that cartoon shirt even if it’s sold for 100 naira, if you teach your child early in life that expensive things make all the difference then you are teaching them to live extravagantly.

And if you are in the act of judging other mothers because they buy their children cheap things desist, instead when you see someone insulting such a woman support her and fight for her. Making another woman feel inadequate.

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What To Do If Your Only Child Is Lonely

Unknown to most parents with one child, your only child might be lonely. Growing up as an only child, although I was never really lonely, I often get asked if I’m lonely. And my answer was always “No” but when I’m playing with my mates and they’re like “Don’t touch my sister” “Don’t beat my sister” I’ll then tell my mom, “Mommy! Give me a sister too” to which my mom would answer “soon” then she got me a dog.

To help your only child, do these;

1. Help them interact with their peer

If your children don’t relate with anyone else but you and other adults, they might have difficulty relating to their peers. Visit your friend and take them along, so they’d play with children of your friends. Encourage your child to play with your neighbour’s children too.


2. Don’t be overprotective

Moms with just one child are usually overprotective, fighting for your child when her mates beat her, rescuing her and telling everyone not to touch her will make her unable to fight her own battles. Step back and let your child live and learn to solve his own problem on his own.

3. Get a pet

You should get your child a pet, it won’t only keep your child company, but also teach them to be responsible, kind and loyal. If your family doesn’t have the time or the effort, don’t get a pet and suffer it.

4. Have reasonable goals for your child

Do not set unreasonable and unrealistic expectations for your child just because he’s your one and only child. Your hopes and ambition for your child should be in line with what he wants and his ambition, although you can assure him to try his best at everything.

5. Let your child make decisions

Making all the decisions for your child will not help them, as they get older, they’ll begin to depend on your input to make a decision and they won’t be able to think for themselves. help your child become an independent thinker right from when he’s a toddler. Give them chances to make little choices like what story they’d like you to read to them, what clothes they’d like to where and where they’d like to go on an outing.

How do you ensure your only child is not lonely? Please share!

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