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Don’t Judge Me By The Clothes My Kids Wear



Despite all the talk about why people should not judge others, I think some women have made other people’s issues their life matter. My daughter needed a pantyhose for her cute little gown and as y’all know Okrika pantyhoses last longer if you can get a good one. So I took my 10-year-old girl with me to Yaba market to “bend down” and select.

As I was picking and checking out the stuffs for my kids, I lifted my eyes and I saw a woman who has a mini supermarket in my area, our eyes met so out of courtesy I greeted her while checking out a brown pantyhose which I intend buying.

“Na for here you dey do am?” she asked with her voice dripping with sarcasm, “do wetin” I asked blankly as if I didn’t know what she’s referring to, she made a tss-tss sound with her teeth and said bye-bye to my girl as she left, I felt horrible.

That was mean I thought but that was only a tip of what was to come. My daughter wore her beautiful dress and her brown pantyhose to the end of the year party. Towards the end of the event, the same woman came to meet me, “you really tried with the solo song” she complimented my daughter, all the while staring at the pantyhose she was wearing until my girl became uncomfortable. To



To me she said “Iya Sandra you shouldn’t embarrass your children like that o” I nodded and moved away from her before I could say something bad and have a catfight in public.

She didn’t just humiliate me, she humiliated my child and if my girl didn’t know better she might go thinking her mom hates her which is why she buys her cheap clothes. The dress in question cost me 5,000 and it’s a new one.

Trust me to fire back at the nosy woman, I told my friend about the ish and right there we moved close to where she was, we made sure she could hear us and to my friend I said “People sabi do pass themselves o, dem go dey spend like say money na sand sand yet when you check their bank account shingbain no dey” then my friend who is a

Then my friend who is arenownedd talker replied “no be their fault o, na their type go dey collect 2 cups of garri for area when dem don broke finish” We both burst into laughter and from the corner of my eyes I saw her drag her feet and leave in search of her kids.

I’m sure I didn’t exactly teach her a lesson but she made me feel like I’m not good enough as a mother, as a matter of fact I buy new clothes for my kids, and for the record, I only buy grade A Okrika for my kids if I have to. 

Yes she was rude but what I can’t understand is why society thinks cheaper clothes are of less quality and why is it embarrasing to wear something that’s not expensive?

If I buy a Tshirt for 1k, and you buy the same one for 5k, if I’m still wearing my 1k T shirt your own might be stretched out and bleached white.

Unless it’s made of gold and will be a sure ticket to heaven I wouldn’t buy a 20,000 designer shirt for my child because it won’t last until the last days neither will it give him super powers. I don’t care if it’s designers or not because when people see it on him it’s just another cloth.

Instead of buying a 20,000 shirt for him I’d rather buy 10 of the shirts for 2k each and it will even last longer because he’ll have different ones to change into and when he pours palm oil on it I won’t scream holy sh**t and beat the crap out of him. Because kids are rough and don’t know if you bought their shirt for a million they just wanna play rough and have fun.

Your kids don’t know how expensive an item is, they don’t care about the price tag, all they want is that cartoon shirt even if it’s sold for 100 naira, if you teach your child early in life that expensive things make all the difference then you are teaching them to live extravagantly.

And if you are in the act of judging other mothers because they buy their children cheap things desist, instead when you see someone insulting such a woman support her and fight for her. Making another woman feel inadequate.

Mamalette! If you’re ever in my shoes what would you do? Share your comment below

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15 Signs Your “Innocent” Child Is Lying



Children think they are very clever, and when they lie giving you that adorable look, you’ll almost believe them until you take a closer look. I asked my 5-year-old child, “what did you do to your sister” “Nothing” He said, giving me that angelic look of his, yet he was seated on his sister’s hand. Nothing indeed.

They have no qualms conning you right to your face and they feel no pinch of guilt about it, whatever they do they’ll still be your adorable little ones, though.  But I must say that some are very good at lying than others, so in order to catch them at their thing, you need to be on the red alert! So here are the signs that your innocent child is lying through his teeth;

  1. You ask him “did you bed-wet today” and she answers “No” with a squeezed face and a hand covering her wet cloth.
  2. You smell something funny and you ask “are you pooping” And she answers with a grunt “No” from behind the chair.
  3. You find call history to your old friends after your child has denied ever touching your phone yet your credit is exhausted.
  4. Crumbs of biscuit or residue of the things she claimed she didn’t eat smeared across her face or on her mouth.
  5. Scared that you might read the truth from his expression, he looks left, right and anywhere else but you as you ask questions(beware some can look straight into your eyes and lie)
  6. “Junior! Are you….” You asked from inside the room and he calls out “No, I’m not” but his sister’s muffled cry of “Yes, he is” can be heard through the pillow or hand he covered her mouth with.
  7. You ask a question, he answers, then run to a distance where your hand can’t reach him(hold him, he’s guilty)
  8. He has other people to pin the blame on and they are all denying.
  9. The child you are speaking to has one or more siblings she can pin the blame on.
  10. Her face is saying “I’m telling the truth” so is her lips but her body language says “I might run anytime soon, watch me”
  11. “What’s that sound” you asked after you heard a crash, then they replied “Nothing mom!” from inside the room, they probably just broke your bottle of perfume!
  12. “Where is the superglue” or “Where’s the needle” she casually asked and when you asked her what it’s for she replied “Nothing” Hmm…
  13. When his “No” comes out as a “Nooooooo” They are trying to assure you and calm themselves as well, which is why the “NO” has so many oooo.
  14. She said “ummmmmm’ for more than 10 seconds before answering the question you asked her.
  15. He tries to stop you from entering his room or opening the drawer.

And these are the ways you can catch your child at his lying game.

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