Baby Care

I Didn’t Know Things Could Change So Much After A Baby



I’ve heard about how much having a baby can change your life, how a lot can change about your marriage if your marriage isn’t strong enough, a lot of advice were thrown my way, some of it was useful others were just trash. But I found out a lot by myself, since becoming a mum, I realised that having a few close friends who will be there when you need them is more important than having many friends that don’t care about how you’re doing.

I now know who my true friends are, even my friends who I consider myself close with haven’t met my son but that’s fine.

Even if you don’t want your friend who just gave birth to a baby to feel encumbered by being there all the time, send her a text once in a while, call them up to know how you can offer them your support, don’t expect them to be the one calling for help. And invite them to parties even if they can’t attend, they’d appreciate you not excluding them.

Needless to say, the friends I considered close to me neglected to be there for me, but that was the lesson I learnt. What I wasn’t fine with was my love life that got hit with the presence of our baby. My husband and I forgot about ourselves, we became more focused taking care of our little one.



We argue about little things as I was very impatient (I blamed this on sleeplessness) I never stopped loving him though, no, I love him even more but my tolerance level became low.

 

We went through hard times as parents, at a point, I was scared that my marriage would hit the rock but when we strive to set time aside for each other things changed positively.

I also lose my patience easily, every ounce of patience I ever had got lost, maybe at the labour room I think. I just can’t tolerate any bullshit anymore, from my husband, friend or opinionated strangers who think they can say whatever they like  even when their opinion is not sorted.

Had I known motherhood would be this tough and it would change so much I would have spent more time loving my husband and giving him more of my time, so the bond we create will strengthen us in loving another being, protecting and worrying about him without us being broken into two. I think I’m doing a good job though, and we’d last.

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Pacifier Safety Tips Every Mom Should Know



Pacifiers do a great job of soothing babies, not only that, they help in the prevention of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) and what will parents do without pacifiers during air-travel and doctor visits? Pacifiers are therefore parent’s best friends, but parents have to be careful about the pacifiers they buy or use. Follow the tips given below and you’ll have no problem with pacifiers.

About pacifiers

Babies have a need to suck on anything that touches their lips or around their mouth, and pacifiers are clean and safe equipment to help soothe the baby.

A pacifier usually has three parts: a shield with holes for ventilation, a nipple or teat made of a soft elastic material, and a ring for holding the pacifier.

Safety tips for choosing the right pacifier

There are a lot of types of pacifiers to choose from, from plain ones to fancy ones. Choose the right pacifier for your little one by following these tips:



  • Age appropriate: Choose a pacifier that’s suitable for the age of your baby.Choosing a pacifier with teats that are too big or too small will pose the threat of choking to your child.
  • Design: Avoid pacifiers that have parts that get detached easily as they may become a choking hazard.
  • Ventilation: The ventilation holes in the shield should cover a minimum surface area of 20 sq. mm with at least two holes of 4 mm each. To be on the safe side, the area of the holes should be comparable to the nail of your small finger. Make sure that the holes are not obstructed.
  • Do not invent one! Do not make a pacifier of your own or use another object as a substitute. This is risky as your baby might choke on it or even swallow it.

When to replace a pacifier

This depends on how often your child sucks on it, pacifier nipples do wear down with age and use, so check the binky thoroughly before placing it in your baby’s mouth.

Also, when you notice that it’s discoloured, has holes, tears or weak spots that could cause the nipple to come off when your child suck on it, do not put it in your child’s mouth again it’s time to change it. Also, some nipples also become sticky with age.

Care of a pacifier

  • To prevent fungus, soak the pacifier in equal parts white vinegar and water for a few minutes once a day. Rinse well and air-dry completely.
  • And if your baby drops her pacifier on the floor, it’s fine to simply rinse it off in hot water and return it to her. (Don’t “rinse” it in your mouth.) If it falls on the road, it’s best to clean it in hot, soapy water. Carry an extra one when going out.

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