Holidays

My Children Will Not Be Getting Christmas Presents This Year


It’s Christmas eve and while many parents have already bought presents for their children and some have wrapped them or planned to wrap them, in my house, no one is getting presents this year.

Let’s be honest, the Nigerian economy is horrible. People are in debt and many are losing their jobs every day. From what we hear, Nigeria will still be in a recession till 2018.

While I love my children and want the best for them, the last thing I want is for them to grow up having high expectations. Children don’t need too many toys or gifts at Christmastime, far from it, what they need is love and affection.  So if your children are quite demanding at Christmastime, don’t buy into the idea that you need to buy them presents.


Children are not born with an instinctive set of Christmas expectations, so you can set the bar exactly where you want it. You can decide how many presents you want to give if any, how practical the presents will be, and how much money you want to spend.

 

Note that many studies have shown that material possessions do not equal happiness and that experiences are much more fulfilling than things. So give your children experiences this Christmastime.

Shared family time for example is drastically important for a child’s well being than presents. In fact shared family time and experiences have been linked to:

  • Bonding within the family
  • Fewer behavioural problems in children
  • A stronger sense of identity
  • A sense of security for children
  • Higher rates of academic success
  • Lower rates of violence

So if you ask me what my children are getting for Christmas, NOTHING. But you can bet they will have a lovely time surrounded by the love and warmth of their mum and dad and other family members.

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Gifts To Get That Special Man In Your Life This Father’s Day


Would you agree with me that fathers don’t get celebrated enough i mean mother’s day comes twice in a year but father’s day comes only once, Lol. So on this wonderful day where we get to celebrate those wonderful husbands, fathers, brothers and friends in our live we usually wonder what we can possibly get them this fathers’ day.

Lets look at this suggestion on what to get this special men in our lives on this day specially dedicated to celebrate them.  

  • Shoes: This is usually a good gift idea because practically every man likes a good pair of shoe. Take a shoe from his rack, check the size and good buy him a lovely pair of shoes. Better still take him along with you have him pick out a pair he likes and pay for it. 
  • Watches: This are also a very safe choice for men. While not all men are particular about shoes, some actually cant do without their watch. Make sure the person you are buying it for actually likes watches.
  • Cufflinks: This works very well especially if your man wears corporates a lot. Get a beautiful pair of cufflinks for your man to go with his shirts.
  • Shirts: This are also a very safe gift to buy because every man especially a working class man has shirts in his closet. So why not buy him a shirt.
  • Native Wear: You really cant go wrong with native wears get him a beautiful guinea material and give his tailor who already has his measurement and surprise him with it. Top it off with an agbada. I am sure that would put a smile on his face.
  • Football Jersey: Practically every man in Nigeria is a football fanatic so why not order him a customised jersey from his favorite football club. That would definitely make his day.

You can also get him a cologne, treat him to a spa day or if your husband is a bookworm buy him a book. The truth is you are the one that knows what works best for the man in your life, hopefully I have helped you to come up with a perfect gift for that special Father in your life. 


Remember Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad, so lets take our time to celebrate them this father’s day. 

Happy Father’s Day to all the amazing Papalettes!!

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