Parenting

How To Build Your Kid’s Character


Parents have a lot to do in their children’s life. A child can decide which course to take no matter the way his parents showed him, but if you did your part as a parent you wouldn’t have any fears knowing you did well by your kids and you’d be able to vouch for your child any time. Every parent should endeavour to build children with enviable characters, here are some tips to help you.

Here are the characters all parents should build in their children;

 

1. Honesty

There are many who have gone a long way just by being honest. Teach your child the importance of honesty, when they own up to doing wrong, reward them and when they lie, discipline them. Even a simple act of stealing sweets shouldn’t be ignored, although discipline should be light and the child should be told what they did wrong.

 

2. Hard work

I never heard of any man whom hard work killed, my mum has a saying “hard work doesn’t kill, only laziness does” Even if you’re rich, if you don’t teach your child to be hardworking, they’ll wreck the family company they are handling in just a month because hard work is not their thing.  Talk to your child about how you work hard to give him all he needs in life and why he has to do the same, starting now.


3. Positivity

This starts with you, when you wake up in the morning, be positive, “This is such a beautiful day, full of hope and promises” say this when your child is within earshot. You need to teach your child to see a good side to everything, not that there’s no bad in the world but even in darkness, teach them to see light.

4. Strength

Teach your children to be strong, especially if you have a girl child. Women are making it in the world today that’s because they never allowed themselves to be trampled in the oceans of men who are ready to push them aside and see them as nothing. Women are being widely accepted in our world today, if only such a woman will distinct herself. Teach your daughter to be strong and never back down.

You can’t have a perfect child unless he’s a robot, because humans are made to be imperfect but when you gently but firmly mould a child’s character from a young age he won’t turn around? And the credit goes to you because you will feel accomplished as a parent to such a child and you’re helping society be a better place.

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What To Do If Your Only Child Is Lonely


Unknown to most parents with one child, your only child might be lonely. Growing up as an only child, although I was never really lonely, I often get asked if I’m lonely. And my answer was always “No” but when I’m playing with my mates and they’re like “Don’t touch my sister” “Don’t beat my sister” I’ll then tell my mom, “Mommy! Give me a sister too” to which my mom would answer “soon” then she got me a dog.

To help your only child, do these;

1. Help them interact with their peer

If your children don’t relate with anyone else but you and other adults, they might have difficulty relating to their peers. Visit your friend and take them along, so they’d play with children of your friends. Encourage your child to play with your neighbour’s children too.

 

2. Don’t be overprotective

Moms with just one child are usually overprotective, fighting for your child when her mates beat her, rescuing her and telling everyone not to touch her will make her unable to fight her own battles. Step back and let your child live and learn to solve his own problem on his own.


3. Get a pet

You should get your child a pet, it won’t only keep your child company, but also teach them to be responsible, kind and loyal. If your family doesn’t have the time or the effort, don’t get a pet and suffer it.

4. Have reasonable goals for your child

Do not set unreasonable and unrealistic expectations for your child just because he’s your one and only child. Your hopes and ambition for your child should be in line with what he wants and his ambition, although you can assure him to try his best at everything.

5. Let your child make decisions

Making all the decisions for your child will not help them, as they get older, they’ll begin to depend on your input to make a decision and they won’t be able to think for themselves. help your child become an independent thinker right from when he’s a toddler. Give them chances to make little choices like what story they’d like you to read to them, what clothes they’d like to where and where they’d like to go on an outing.

How do you ensure your only child is not lonely? Please share!

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