Q&AI don't want to feel this way
Mamalette Support Team Staff asked 4 months ago
Good day mamas and papas in the house, please I need your opinion on this. I've been with my boyfriend for over 10 years now and we aren't engaged, we are both in our mid 30's. People always ask me about it and I just say I don't want to yet even though that's not true. A few months ago his female cousin that is also in a long term relationship with her boyfriend was playing with a ring that fell on the ground. It fell at my feet and she picked it up as she was kneeling down and said "oh will you marry me? We may as well get married since our boyfriends won't pop the question" I didn't know what to say so I just giggled. So of course I assume she thinks/knows he doesn't want to. Which makes me feel like my relationship looks like a negative situation. Then my friend asked him one time when we are getting married. He didn't even hear her and he thought he missed a joke and he laughed a little and just wasn't paying attention. And she said "oh no now he hates me!" and I feel like now she'll tell everyone he doesn't want to, and that's my own business. I went for his sister's wedding and everyone knows how long we've been together and I couldn't help but feel worried people will ask me why we aren't married or just assume. What do you think? I don't want to feel this way. I don't think I should feel like people have expectations on a relationship that isn't theirs, but at the same time maybe I am giving myself too much credit in assuming anyone really gives a crap if we're engaged or not!

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