He Won't Marry You, Just Because You Got Pregnant For Him

Editorial Team

The rate at which baby mamas and side chicks are popping up in Nigeria recently is honestly very alarming. I came across a former classmate of mine and her daughter, we went to the same university and finished in the same year.

She is from a very privileged background and she is the only daughter of her parents. She was one of those people that was very sure that she would go for her Masters program outside the country before NYSC.

However she had to put her plans on hold after she got pregnant two months after we graduated. She was involved with a married man who apparently was separated from his wife.

She met the man when she was still in 200 level and he told her that he would leave his wife and marry her.

For the next two years he did not get a divorce or leave his wife but still she stayed in the relationship with him hoping that he would leave his wife.

I heard from her former roommate that she decided that she would get pregnant for him because if she got pregnant he would not definitely marry her.

Till today (we graduated in 2014) the man is still with his wife and she is just the babymama.

Even unmarried ladies are having babies for their unmarried “boyfriends” and they still don’t end up getting married to them. This trend is becoming so popular especially in the music industry and is influencing youths of nowadays.

Popular media personality and co-host on TVC’s “Your View” Tope Mark Odigie uring the popular show said

”If you deliberately plan to get pregnant to keep a man, the marriage will fail, It is in those days women play that trick and it works for them, although most of them do not have a happy home at the end. I personally do not agree to it.

Men used to respect women without touching them until marriage,but evolution has changed all that. It doesn’t serve any purpose getting pregnant consciously with the hope that the man will marry you.”

The wife to the general Overseer of Royalty Christian Centre, who is also a Baby mama to music legend 2face idibia, Sumbo Adeoye, also took to facebook to advice women on being baby mamas.

According to her, ‘a baby can never make a man stick with you, take that from me. Move on and stop looking back at your past decisions, look at the positive side of your past experience.

US-based PR personality, Toni Payne who is the ex wife of popular singer, 9ice and the mother of his first child took to her twitter to tell young ladies that having a baby won’t keep a man and if you have to trap a man to marry you then you have clearly lost the plot.

Even with all this warnings and signs some ladies still choose to get pregnant for men in hopes that it would prompt the man to marry them. When are the young ladies of nowadays going to learn?