How I Lost My Virginity

Editorial Team

Today, I was surfing the net and I came across a story by Olayode Juliana, popularly known as ‘Toyo Baby’ from Funke Akindele-Bello’s popular Television comic series, Jenifa’s Diaries. She talked about how she was 17 years old when she lost her virginity to her married Music teacher. She said she was cajoled to a “cheap” hotel by her music teacher who promised to marry her.

She went on to talk about how the experience was very painful, how the man kept on telling her not to shout so as not to draw attention to them. She said she became even more emotional after finding out later on that she didn’t bleed when she was deflowered.

She also talked about the fact that she panicked when she started her menstruation because she did not understand what was going on until someone explained it to her.

From her whole story what caught my attention was the fact that she did not seem to have had all the information about her body as a teenager. The truth is a lot of young ladies even till today don't know a lot of things they need to know about their body as young ladies.

Most teenagers get their information from school, movies or their peers, what about their parents. This is one of the reason why the rate of teenage pregnancies, abortion and the likes is still very high in Nigeria. Don't even lets talk about the rate of babymamas and sidechicks nowaday. Some parents are even the culprits in this situations

We have to ask ourselves as parents are we educating our children enough on s.x and their body? Some parents even believe that their kids are still to young to know about s.x whereas they hear about this things from movies and their friends?