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This Is The Best Way To Make New Year’s Resolutions

Do you always make new year’s resolutions only to break them before the end of January?

You are not alone. Traditionally, New Year’s Day is seen as the ideal time to start a new phase in your life and the time when you must make your all important new year’s resolution.

However when it comes to setting New Year’s resolutions, most people shoot for the moon and often because of this find themselves right back where they started. Infact less than 10 percent of people actually keep their New Year’s resolutions.

What is the best way to make New Year’s resolutions?

Think about how many resolutions you have made in the past and kept. If you haven’t been able to keep any, maybe now is the time to quit making resolutions. Ignore the following steps.

If you can remember resolutions that you stuck with, think about why you were able to stick to your goals.

Now make realistic resolutions that you can actually keep. Try breaking down your goal into small pieces. For instance, if you want to lose weight, try quantifying the amount and then setting mini-goals for yourself to help track your progress. E.g. I want to lose 5kg by March.

Pick someone that you can be accountable to. If you do it alone, you may have a harder time keeping your resolutions. So find people who will not only cheer you on, but hold you accountable for your mistakes. Use your spouse, coworkers, friends, and even online support groups to keep your motivation high.

Give yourself room to fail.  The bottom line is that, at some point during the year, you may break a New Year’s resolution. But that doesn’t have to be the end of your goal. If you view your resolution in a black-or-white light, you may feel one mistake means failure and be tempted to give up entirely. It doesn’t have to be that way afterall failure is also part of the process.

Good luck!

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Read These Parenting Tips For Lastborn Children

Lastborn kids are the babies of the house. They enjoy the attention of their parent who tends to be liberal and relaxed in their expectations and enforcing rules.

Lastborn children are likely to be fun-loving, uncomplicated and self-centered. They are the little star that steals the family show so often that they can get away with offences that if it were committed by the older sibling it would have been punishable.

Here, how to get your lastborn kids to behave well and grow upright;

  1. Practice Fairness: Sometimes parents get too engrossed with the achievement of the other siblings that the last-born is just a tag along. Making time for him/her own activity will help to give a sense of identity as part of the family. Get your last born involved in all the activities at home and with other siblings, there are little aspects that he/she can fit into easily.
  2. Make Him Accountable: Like it or not lastborns tend to get away with many things their elder siblings would have received punishments for at their age. Parents must be careful in overlooking offences that deserve some disciplinary measures else, it might create some resentment in the older siblings who will notice the preferential treatment.
  3. Protect Him: Parents need to look out for the last-born child when there is a tendency to be bullied and teased by older kids. Here you need to teach the older ones to be responsible for the last born kid, step in if you need to do so to stop the intimidation.
  4. Be Willing To Turn Some Requests Down: Be ready to say no and feel good about it. Lastborn kids can be self-centred sometimes, so they request for things that they may not need by throwing tantrums to force your hands to do their bidding. When she acts this way, you should not give in to the request. Treat her like every other child in the family.
  5. Explain Situations: Sometimes it is difficult for children of different ages to play together without anyone being left out especially the youngest. Perhaps he/she cannot run fast or jump high. The lastborn child might feel left out. Parents should explain the situation of things to the kid. It is only a matter of time before he/she would be able to do what others are doing. Then you should look out for common games and things every child can do together in the family without being left out.
  6. Double-Check; it just might be a trick: One of the common traits of a lastborn is being mischievous. Your youngest child may likely exaggerate some facts in other to get some attention. For example, if your last born child observes that whenever anyone is sick in the house, they get better meals and a warm and loving care. She may feign sickness just to enjoy this goodness. Be sure to double check health facts before giving in to your child’s claim.

This guide follows the principles of birth order theory but the reality is that not all kids would fit into the mould of birth order. Some are an exception to the general. Lastborns that behave like firstborns and firstborns that act like lastborns.

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