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A Love Letter To My Mother

Dear Mum

I am so glad for a day like this called Mother’s day. It is special to me because the memories of how you gave to make me what I am today.  I appreciate you for choosing to have me when it seems your child equation was balanced. You stood against all odds to give me life, you could have aborted me and no one would have batted an eye.

I remember those days you would tear the last sheets from the test papers of your students, staple it together to make a note for me. You would redesign fairly- used clothes into children’s wears so we could have clothes to wear. You were not ashamed to farm close to your school. Out of our farm, we sold groundnut, cassava, vegetables of all kinds. Every school event was an opportunity to make sales of tasty time and iced water.  Though I was a little child, I remember chasing butterflies and picking snails around the farm while my older siblings did the hard work.

In spite of our financial challenges, you ensured that I went to a good school. Your principle of no debt marked you out as a woman of integrity. You hardly defaulted on your payment plan. You taught us that education is more important than material things. I could count the number of wrappers you had at that time when you borrowed just to ensure my brother was able to travel with his mate for extended studies. Before your salary arrived, you would have mentally divided it in such a way that everyone‘s need was duly considered.

I cannot talk enough of how frugal, prudent, meticulous; industrious you were and still are. Being a mum today, I know that the process of carrying a pregnancy to term is not a joke. How much more taking care of us and meeting our needs with little or no support. You are a lioness mum. In sickness, in health you stood by us, you prayed for us and still pray for us.

As I write this note I realise I have not appreciated you enough for all the sacrifices you have made to make me who I am today. I appreciate you from the depth of my heart for your labour of love over us. Thank you for giving, caring, loving us through thick and thin. God will preserve your life and you will reap the fruit of your labour over us. Things may not have turned out the way you expected, you might feel you have laboured in vain, put your mind at rest, you will be rewarded beyond your imagination.  I LOVE YOU MUM.

Lots of Love

Your Baby






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Read These Parenting Tips For Lastborn Children

Lastborn kids are the babies of the house. They enjoy the attention of their parent who tends to be liberal and relaxed in their expectations and enforcing rules.

Lastborn children are likely to be fun-loving, uncomplicated and self-centered. They are the little star that steals the family show so often that they can get away with offences that if it were committed by the older sibling it would have been punishable.

Here, how to get your lastborn kids to behave well and grow upright;

  1. Practice Fairness: Sometimes parents get too engrossed with the achievement of the other siblings that the last-born is just a tag along. Making time for him/her own activity will help to give a sense of identity as part of the family. Get your last born involved in all the activities at home and with other siblings, there are little aspects that he/she can fit into easily.
  2. Make Him Accountable: Like it or not lastborns tend to get away with many things their elder siblings would have received punishments for at their age. Parents must be careful in overlooking offences that deserve some disciplinary measures else, it might create some resentment in the older siblings who will notice the preferential treatment.
  3. Protect Him: Parents need to look out for the last-born child when there is a tendency to be bullied and teased by older kids. Here you need to teach the older ones to be responsible for the last born kid, step in if you need to do so to stop the intimidation.
  4. Be Willing To Turn Some Requests Down: Be ready to say no and feel good about it. Lastborn kids can be self-centred sometimes, so they request for things that they may not need by throwing tantrums to force your hands to do their bidding. When she acts this way, you should not give in to the request. Treat her like every other child in the family.
  5. Explain Situations: Sometimes it is difficult for children of different ages to play together without anyone being left out especially the youngest. Perhaps he/she cannot run fast or jump high. The lastborn child might feel left out. Parents should explain the situation of things to the kid. It is only a matter of time before he/she would be able to do what others are doing. Then you should look out for common games and things every child can do together in the family without being left out.
  6. Double-Check; it just might be a trick: One of the common traits of a lastborn is being mischievous. Your youngest child may likely exaggerate some facts in other to get some attention. For example, if your last born child observes that whenever anyone is sick in the house, they get better meals and a warm and loving care. She may feign sickness just to enjoy this goodness. Be sure to double check health facts before giving in to your child’s claim.

This guide follows the principles of birth order theory but the reality is that not all kids would fit into the mould of birth order. Some are an exception to the general. Lastborns that behave like firstborns and firstborns that act like lastborns.

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