I’ve always been the weird one out of all my mom’s children, I hate doing the same thing everyone is doing and at such I’ve been known to do things differently. But looking back, I have no regrets about the choices I made including having my first child at the early age of 21, most of my friends are just getting married and settling down but my first child will be 20 years this coming November, I feel young because I had my kids young.
I had my last time when I was 25 years old, people had a lot of negative things to say including asking how a kid can take care of kid, but we did it. Having kids early was a good decision I made and here are my reasons;
1. I had a large store of energy
When I was pregnant with my third(last) child, I was still packing, decorating and doing things that require energy up until my water broke, I did everything enthusiastically and ended up giving birth without little ado. Meanwhile, I graduated that same year but that was after the third of my very last child.
2. Google wasn’t around to scare me
The problem with many mothers these days is information overload, having access to too much information makes mothers scare easily at every slight issue. On my part, I knew little about all these scary medical stuff then and so I worried less.
3. I had patience
When I had my kids, I was using a very small phone with no internet access at all, so I gave my children and husband all my time, I mean no social media drama to distract me or any such thing. I would watch boring kids show with my kids even though it almost bored me to death.
4. I keep up with tech trends
Well, that I started using smartphones late doesn’t mean I’m backward when it comes to latest tech, nahhh! I know much of it, Instagram, Snapchat, twitter and even musical.ly.
5. I relate with my kids like friends
My kids are my very good friends, my eldest daughter even looks like my sister, I hear my kids problems and tell them about mine too, I don’t listen to their problems with the intention of preaching to them, no, I look for ways to help instead because I can relate.
6. I’m much more free than most of my friends
My youngest son is 15 years old, so I stopped baby sitting since he was 4, he has older siblings that can take care of him, I have enough time on my hands to go on a date with hubby, go see a movie, and even read a book. But truth be told, there was a time I thought the sleepless nights will not come to an end.
Despite the fact that my husband and I had fears, people had fears too, my children turned out just fine! The trio have received awards, and honorary speeches and they are kind and caring kids, for that I’m very proud of them.
I made many mistakes but I learned my lesson, and I’m proud I didn’t look at what people will say and throw away my pregnancy. I’m who I am because of them, and if I have to do this again, I would over and over.