Parenting

6 Reasons I’m Glad I Had My Kids Early


I’ve always been the weird one out of all my mom’s children, I hate doing the same thing everyone is doing and at such I’ve been known to do things differently. But looking back, I have no regrets about the choices I made including having my first child at the early age of 21, most of my friends are just getting married and settling down but my first child will be 20 years this coming November, I feel young because I had my kids young.

I had my last time when I was 25 years old, people had a lot of negative things to say including asking how a kid can take care of kid, but we did it. Having kids early was a good decision I made and here are my reasons;

1. I had a large store of energy

When I was pregnant with my third(last) child, I was still packing, decorating and doing things that require energy up until my water broke, I did everything enthusiastically and ended up giving birth without little ado. Meanwhile, I graduated that same year but that was after the third of my very last child.

2. Google wasn’t around to scare me

The problem with many mothers these days is information overload, having access to too much information makes mothers scare easily at every slight issue. On my part, I knew little about all these scary medical stuff then and so I worried less.


3. I had patience

When I had my kids, I was using a very small phone with no internet access at all, so I gave my children and husband all my time, I mean no social media drama to distract me or any such thing.  I would watch boring kids show with my kids even though it almost bored me to death.

4. I keep up with tech trends

Well, that I started using smartphones late doesn’t mean I’m backward when it comes to latest tech, nahhh! I know much of it, Instagram, Snapchat, twitter and even musical.ly.

5. I relate with my kids like friends

My kids are my very good friends, my eldest daughter even looks like my sister, I hear my kids problems and tell them about mine too, I don’t listen to their problems with the intention of preaching to them, no, I look for ways to help instead because I can relate.

6. I’m much more free than most of my friends

My youngest son is 15 years old, so I stopped baby sitting since he was 4, he has older siblings that can take care of him, I have enough time on my hands to go on a date with hubby, go see a movie, and even read a book. But truth be told, there was a time I thought the sleepless nights will not come to an end.

Despite the fact that my husband and I had fears, people had fears too, my children turned out just fine! The trio have received awards, and honorary speeches and they are kind and caring kids, for that I’m very proud of them.

I made many mistakes but I learned my lesson, and I’m proud I didn’t look at what people will say and throw away my pregnancy. I’m who I am because of them, and if I have to do this again, I would over and over.

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How To Build Your Kid’s Character


Parents have a lot to do in their children’s life. A child can decide which course to take no matter the way his parents showed him, but if you did your part as a parent you wouldn’t have any fears knowing you did well by your kids and you’d be able to vouch for your child any time. Every parent should endeavour to build children with enviable characters, here are some tips to help you.

Here are the characters all parents should build in their children;

 

1. Honesty

There are many who have gone a long way just by being honest. Teach your child the importance of honesty, when they own up to doing wrong, reward them and when they lie, discipline them. Even a simple act of stealing sweets shouldn’t be ignored, although discipline should be light and the child should be told what they did wrong.

 

2. Hard work

I never heard of any man whom hard work killed, my mum has a saying “hard work doesn’t kill, only laziness does” Even if you’re rich, if you don’t teach your child to be hardworking, they’ll wreck the family company they are handling in just a month because hard work is not their thing.  Talk to your child about how you work hard to give him all he needs in life and why he has to do the same, starting now.


3. Positivity

This starts with you, when you wake up in the morning, be positive, “This is such a beautiful day, full of hope and promises” say this when your child is within earshot. You need to teach your child to see a good side to everything, not that there’s no bad in the world but even in darkness, teach them to see light.

4. Strength

Teach your children to be strong, especially if you have a girl child. Women are making it in the world today that’s because they never allowed themselves to be trampled in the oceans of men who are ready to push them aside and see them as nothing. Women are being widely accepted in our world today, if only such a woman will distinct herself. Teach your daughter to be strong and never back down.

You can’t have a perfect child unless he’s a robot, because humans are made to be imperfect but when you gently but firmly mould a child’s character from a young age he won’t turn around? And the credit goes to you because you will feel accomplished as a parent to such a child and you’re helping society be a better place.

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