4 Thoughts Going Through Her Head As She Watches You Breastfeed

You might be wondering why some women stare at your breast when you are breastfeeding your baby, they aren’t trying to tell you to pack it up and put it away.

As you put the nipple in your baby’s mouth and make him suck there are a lot of thoughts going through their head and I know because here are the thoughts that go through my head when I stare at a woman breastfeeding her baby so you aren’t creep out next time that happens;

1. I’m wondering how you do that 

I never got to nurse my own baby for long but watching you as you tried to pacify your hungry baby by bringing out your breast in full view of everyone while your other toddler is also seated beside you, I wonder where you get the strength to do this day in, day out.

2. Looking at you, I was reminded of how hard it was 

We didn’t have a good start at breastfeeding, it hurt like hell and my boobs were cracked and painful and I felt like they are nailing my nipple every time my child put his mouth to it, yet I had to endure this for some time before things finally got back to normal. Watching you still breastfeeding your 1 year plus baby, I wished I was reminded of how hard it was and I wish I had tried harder with my baby.

3. I miss those moment of bonding with my baby

Although it was crazy and it was tough and I cursed and spanked her every time she bite me now that it’s over and as I watch you and your baby bond, I now realise that I missed those minutes spent holding my baby close to me during feeds while she stares at my face as if to memorise all it’s features.

4. You remind me of how far I went to breastfeed my baby

When I finally went back to work, breastfeeding was not easy, I had to enter one very tiny storeroom that was so tiny it was almost choking to pump so my engorged breast can have some relief and i can have enough feeds for my baby. The only places where I didn’t breastfeed or pump are, the cementary, inside the church, beside the dumpster and inside the toilet, besides these sacred or horrible places, there was no place I couldn’t breastfeed at.

And when I’m staring at you, I’m only amazed at your strength that you wouldn’t mind the 101 eyes that are staring at your beloved breast when you bring it out, your enduring spirit, that you could endure all the breastfeeding problems that came your way and I was hoping I could catch your eye so I could tell you how amazing you are with my gaze.

Seeing that you are in the mood of breastfeeding, I take off my eyes so you can have your privacy.

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Clearing The Path For Pumping Breastmilk At Work

After the joy and excitement of having a baby, you still have to get back to work, for a number of reasons. First there’s the economic recession and the need for financial stability in homes. if you’re getting back to work and you want to keep breastfeeding, you might have to pump and express breastmilk while away from your baby. Thus you might be faced with additional challenges, pumping at work requires research, practice and patience.

You rent or buy equipment; learn how to use the equipment; we purchase the containers needed to store the milk; and then we plan when, where and how this is going to happen while we juggle work and life.

In some organisations, a nursing mother would be given time to pump and have access to a clean private room that contains refrigerator so she can express and store. But this is rare, women have had to express breast milk inside their workplace kitchen or toilet.

Most organisations don’t even recognise the fact that a nursing mom needs to pump hence the provision of time, space and refrigerator is seen as the woman’s business and not theirs. Imagine women having to pump in dirty places like the toilet, milk that’ll be their baby’s next meal, no wonder most moms wean their baby before getting back to work.

And here’s what a new mom can do to ensure that she’s given the time and space to pump when they return to work;

1. Negotiate

On getting back to work, your supervisor already know a lot has changed. Have a talk about the need to have some privacy and the time to express milk.

2. Have a plan

This will probably see a lot of revisions in the years to come but you still need a plan on when to express and how many minute you’re going to spend expressing. Include this in your plan;
• Potential locations you could pump in private.
• What you need (chair, refrigerator to keep milk cold).
• Estimated time needed.
• Suggested schedule (one that works for both you and your employer).

3. Share your plan

After coming up with a plan, share it with the HR department and/or your manager. A little talk might be needed, be prepared.

Finally, I’ll say this, you need support, in your workplace and at home. Someone who you can share your struggles with, who will lend a listening ear like your mom friend at work, your mom or even other Mamalettes, just reach out to someone who will make the journey easier.

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