School Age

8 Signs Your Child Is A Bully

No parent wants her child to be a bully, children who are bullies are often in trouble, which is why the habit of bullying must be controlled from an early age before it’s too late. Bullies are often angry children who vent their anger, frustration, and hatred on others.

Here are signs you should watch out for to know you are raising a bully;

1. Regularly throwing tantrums

It’s only normal for children to throw tantrums, but when your child never listen unless they get their way as time goes on, they’ll become more forceful and unrelenting until their demands are met. Never giving in to tantrums is a good way to ensure your child know force is never the answer. 

2. Laughing at others

Children who are bullies find it funny when they see people humiliated when your child is laughing at other kids or people’s tragedy or dilemma. Let them understand that having pity on other human is the commandment of God and not laughing at their misery.

3. Vengeful Nature

This is not good! Children with revengeful or angry nature  always want to avenge the hurt done them by repaying evil with evil. If such children are not corrected early they might develop  a revengeful nature that can hurt them and others around them.

4. Complaints from School

If your child’s teachers are always complaining about your child because he/she always gets into trouble, take it seriously and look into the matter.

5. Destructive nature

Children who love to destroy things as a way of showing their anger, or ones who never listen to their parents and derive pleasure from doing wrong can grow up to be a bully if this act is not corrected.

6. Causing injury

Whether to humans or animals, children who fight and push their mates, who never cooperates are often labeled as trouble makers. Make it known to your child that it’s a grave sin to physically hurt a human being or even animals.

7. Bossing people around

Bullies love getting their way whether through crook or nook and when they don’t succeed they get angry and threaten to spoil things. Making it known to your child that in life, you can’t always have what you want will help them gracefully accept defeat when they lose.

8. Beating younger kids 

Bullies are always fighting and bossing around younger ones knowing full well they have more power than they do. If your child often hit children that are younger than them, stop this kind of behaviour now.

Bullying might not seem like a big deal to you but it really is. Bullies end up being isolated because they won’t have any real friends, they also keep getting in trouble.  If your child shows more than two of these characteristics, correct them so they can be happy children who love themselves and others and who are loved as well.

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These Are The Reasons You Should Let Your Kids Play

Have you noticed that babies have no worries in the world; all they do is to play, eat and sleep. I am sure you envy your baby but do not worry you have had your own turn, let him have his too!

You may wonder what is special about playing but it is more than that. It is essential that babies be allowed to play because playing itself is beyond playing. Playing involves skill building, problem solving, relationship management, surmounting physical and mental challenge. It helps in physical, emotional, mental and social development.

Play helps to build the imagination of your child: Kids at about the age of two can act out different roles. They can pretend to be a soldier, teacher or mummy and even turn his potty into a cap, pots into drums, spoon into drumsticks. You can try out using household items to create a playful scene while your child plays a different role. When you allow your child to lead in playing, you are able to discern his level of understanding on what stands out for him in your day-to-day interaction.

Play builds your child’s social skill: When kids start playing, they play individually as they grow; they begin to interact with others while playing. They learn how to share, take turns, cooperate and negotiate as they interact with their friends at school.  You can help your child interact more with other kids at the park, church, mosques by setting up playtime with other families.

Play helps your child develop physically: When your child plays with toys, blocks and participate in sporting activities, he develops his strength, sense of coordination (eye and hand) and balance. All this can be displayed in the process of running, pedalling his bicycle, arrange blocks to form a shape.

Play shows behavioural challenges that your child is experiencing: When your child plays especially at home, some of the actions your child does gives you a glimpse of the behavioural challenges your child may be going through and the opportunity to correct it through play. If your child models a bad action, playfully model the good action

Other nonphysical benefits of play include reduction of stress, crankiness. When your child plays, he has little or no tendency to be grumpy, tense. Physical plays also help to ward off obesity.

During play give your child free reins to determine how things will play out and follow his lead while being mindful of safety. Playing along with your kids help to build their self-esteem that you find what they do interesting and worth engaging.

With all these numerous benefits, I know you would encourage your kids to play more but you can support play by being involved in the play with your kids rather than watching television. You can play hide-and-seek, dance to music indoors and play ball or ride a bicycle together

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