School Age

8 Signs Your Child Is A Bully

No parent wants her child to be a bully, children who are bullies are often in trouble, which is why the habit of bullying must be controlled from an early age before it’s too late. Bullies are often angry children who vent their anger, frustration, and hatred on others.

Here are signs you should watch out for to know you are raising a bully;

1. Regularly throwing tantrums

It’s only normal for children to throw tantrums, but when your child never listen unless they get their way as time goes on, they’ll become more forceful and unrelenting until their demands are met. Never giving in to tantrums is a good way to ensure your child know force is never the answer. 

2. Laughing at others

Children who are bullies find it funny when they see people humiliated when your child is laughing at other kids or people’s tragedy or dilemma. Let them understand that having pity on other human is the commandment of God and not laughing at their misery.

3. Vengeful Nature

This is not good! Children with revengeful or angry nature  always want to avenge the hurt done them by repaying evil with evil. If such children are not corrected early they might develop  a revengeful nature that can hurt them and others around them.

4. Complaints from School

If your child’s teachers are always complaining about your child because he/she always gets into trouble, take it seriously and look into the matter.

5. Destructive nature

Children who love to destroy things as a way of showing their anger, or ones who never listen to their parents and derive pleasure from doing wrong can grow up to be a bully if this act is not corrected.

6. Causing injury

Whether to humans or animals, children who fight and push their mates, who never cooperates are often labeled as trouble makers. Make it known to your child that it’s a grave sin to physically hurt a human being or even animals.

7. Bossing people around

Bullies love getting their way whether through crook or nook and when they don’t succeed they get angry and threaten to spoil things. Making it known to your child that in life, you can’t always have what you want will help them gracefully accept defeat when they lose.

8. Beating younger kids 

Bullies are always fighting and bossing around younger ones knowing full well they have more power than they do. If your child often hit children that are younger than them, stop this kind of behaviour now.

Bullying might not seem like a big deal to you but it really is. Bullies end up being isolated because they won’t have any real friends, they also keep getting in trouble.  If your child shows more than two of these characteristics, correct them so they can be happy children who love themselves and others and who are loved as well.

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Does Your Child Itch Uncontrollably At Night? It Just Might Be Scabies

Scabies is an itchy rash that is caused by tiny mites called Sarcoptes scabiei.

These mites burrow into and lay egg under the skin. It is a common rash that spread fast through skin-to-skin contact. If your baby has been scratching his skin especially in the night then it might be scabies!

In the beginning, you can easily overlook the presence of scabies because it looks similar to the other types of rashes.  One of the distinct and unmistakable sign is that of continuous itching and trails of burrows on the skin where the female mite lays her egg.

The burrow trails are usually greyish to white colour. Mites often prefer the head, neck, face, palms, and soles of the feet to lay its egg. Scabies in children does not manifest fast. It takes about a month to six weeks for the skin to react to the infection. Scabies does not happen because your child or home is dirty.

Symptoms of Scabies in Kids

  • Unrelenting itching especially at night or after a hot bath
  • A pimple like rashes
  • Scales or blisters
  • Sores (due to scratching)

Ways of Contracting Scabies

Scabies mites can live up to two to three days on the surface of clothes, bedding, or towels. Scabies can easily spread fast at crowded places, day care centres where mites can easily crawl from one person to the other which could be from a caregiver or from infant to infants.

If an infected child shares beddings, play mats or towels and other clothing items it can escalate the outbreak. It is easy to catch it from an infected family member too.

Kids cannot contract scabies from pets because the mites that infect them is different from the one that infect humans.

Treatment of Scabies

If you confirmed that your baby has scabies and he attends a daycare then you have to notify the caregivers so they can contain the spread and get appropriate treatment for themselves and other babies even if they are not showing any signs of infection. Scabies is an infection that you cannot wave aside and wait it out, it needs to be treated with medications from the doctor to kill the mites.

Your child will have to stay at home until treatment is completed. Your doctor will likely prescribe a lotion or cream (usually 5% permethrin cream) to put on your baby’s skin.

Give your child a lukewarm bath or shower and dry her skin gently before you apply the cream all over the body. You can reapply on the hand if the child washes it off.  Leave the cream on for 8-12 hours. If your child has scabies, then the whole family should be treated at the same time.

Wash all clothing, linen, towels and soft toys, using the hottest setting possible to destroy the mites and its eggs. Vacuum all carpets and mattresses. For the things you can’t wash, spray them with insecticide and leave them closed in a plastic bag for up to a week to avoid reinfection.

If the itching continues for more than four weeks or a new rash appears, go see your doctor. Do not reapply the lotion or cream unless your doctor recommended it.

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